Ask Amy Advice Column - World of Warcraft Daddy

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Ask Amy Advice Column - World of Warcraft Daddy

Hey guys!

I spend a lot of time reading advice columns in the Chicago Tribune as well as online, and when I found this write-in, I felt compelled to share.

Here's the link:

And here's the text:

Dear Amy: I have been a happily married wife for almost three months. My husband and I have been together for eight years. Naturally, we have changed over time.

He is a very loving, attentive man, and I feel confident that he will be a superb father.

While I am working toward my master's degree in nursing, he continues to dabble in actuarial studies. I have been in school for more than a year and have a set career path. He has failed his first actuary test three times. This is strange because he graduated with stellar scholastic achievements and was inducted into Phi Beta Kappa. He says his dream is being an actuary.

Unfortunately, he spends massive amounts of time playing "World of Warcraft" instead of studying. He is upset that I don't support him in his endeavors. I told him I don't want to measure his successes as a person based on his salary, but many of the things we want in life, such as a house, will be based on our incomes.

I am interested in knowing if my frustrations are typical for any transitioning couple, or if my husband's "carefree attitude" is a phase and he will be more dedicated in getting settled in life.

aEU"Concerned Wife

Dear Concerned: By your description, your husband's current occupation is not that of a dedicated future actuary, but of an overgrown boy spending hours playing "WOW" while you advance your studies and plan for your shared future.

You are giving your guy way too much credit. I'll have to take your word for it, for instance, that this couch potato would make a "superb father." (Having opposable thumbs doesn't count.)

Your husband's online game-playing and possible addiction are what you and he should focus on.

Actuaries are students of risk. Your husband seems to have embraced that concept, but little else.

[color=purple]<3 Jessica


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Well, apparently the advice

Well, apparently the advice columnists are getting it. Just wish more of the psychologists and psychiatrists would get it.

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They're getting there. Some

They're getting there. Some people have to see it in writing, that's all. Careful is as careful does.

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I agree, Xandtar, and I

I agree, Xandtar, and I think one of the problems is that it just isn't in writing enough! As a counselor who works with addicts and alcoholics on a daily basis, I can attest that the resources that are available for those addictions are light years ahead of those for gaming addictions. I have struggled greatly, until I found this site at least, in searching for resources to use for myself as well as my clients. As a professional, I hope other professionals get the picture and recognize the need for further research.

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