Am I addicted to Games?

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Am I addicted to Games?

Hey there, I don't how I stumbled upon this site but it has given me few revelations.

First up, I'm a 16 year old dude.

I've been playing games since 6.

It was not kind of an obsession until 7 years ago.

I actually got into gaming because I was a big fan of the Pokemon cartoon and started playing the games and you get the idea.

Back to when it became an obsession, my friend (irl) said me about Runescape. The way he explained it, I felt intrigued so I tested out.

Soon, I got hooked onto it.

My mother wouldn't allow me to game online so much so I waited for her to sleep and then played it late night like 1 am. I would play until 4 am even when I had school.

Everyone who had ever played RS knows that they can't keep playing it at a stretch.

So, I quit the game.

That was in 2010.

Then I persuaded my mother to buy me a Xbox. I didn't game a lot. A few hours every weekend.

Before I continue, I must say that I was in the top 10 students of my class all the time.

Back to my story, slowly I started putting more time into games. Then I played RS again.

I was F2P so it was a bit boring.

I got Xbox LIVE then I started playing more and more on the 360. (I've put in 400 hours in Skyrim alone)

I thought my "addiction" was under control until Jagex allowed membership to be paid through in game currency.

I had full Sara so I sold it and bought a bond. In order to make my money back for a bond, I put in 2 hours everyday. Then I persuaded my Mom to pay for membership and she did.

And I even started playing RIFT. Nowadays I game for more 10 hours+ most of the time after my mom is asleep at night so she doesn't catch me.

My performnace in school has reduced.

What do you guys make of this?

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Hello Rahtoken, Welcome to

Hello Rahtoken,

Welcome to OLGA and thanks for sharing about your situation.

I'm a recovering gaming addict (42 days game-free today) and there are some elements of your story I can relate to. First of all, the large amount of time spent on gaming. Also: hiding it from my family and others, feeling that F2P weren't enough and I wanted more, and negative real-life consequences.

I can't tell if you have an addiction or not, though it does seem clear that you have a problem from excessive gaming and would benefit from quitting. I encourage you to take this diagnostic test:

Try to be as honest in your answers as possible.

I encourage you to spend more time at OLGA and avail yourself of the many tools we can offer: other people's experiences, educating yourself about addiction and recovery, daily meetings at 3 and 9pm EST, forums and blogs to post in, private message to members who could help you.

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Thanks for the

Thanks for the questionnaire.

I was surprised when most of my answers were yes.

One other thing, gaming has engrossed me so much that I'm considering a career in this industry.

I will be awaiting you response and thanks in advance. ^_^

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If your grades are slipping

If your grades are slipping as a direct result of gaming, then yes it might be excessive. If your social life suffers, responsibilities in general take a back seat, etc, it is a problem.

If you are considering a career in game development, QA, etc etc it would be bad to drop it entirely since you'd be using it as a resource in a way.

I'm no expert, I don't know your situation but if you're able to I think the key is BALANCE. Once you're no longer balancing all aspects of life and other things are suffering in a negative way then it might be time to re-assess everything.

The people and resources here are amazing so definitely take some time to read around at the very least. Welcome!

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Rahtoken, if most of your

Rahtoken, if most of your answers to the survey were "yes," and your overall feeling was that this test very much applies to your life, then most likely you have a gaming addiction. If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

In a way, this is not good news. In another way, it's wonderful news, because it can empower you to make the best decision you can make: the decision to quit. I would not recommend moderation, or balancing. Once the addiction switch has been turned on in your brain, it cannot be switched back. At that point, your only hope for a good life is to refrain from "using."

If you choose or even desire to stop playing, OLGA is here to help. That is our mission; that is the whole purpose of everything we do.

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Hi Rahtoken, i've been

Hi Rahtoken,

i've been videogames free for the past 42 days.

When i was 15-16 years old (4 years ago), i used to spend a lot of time at night playing video games. I remember hidding in my basement with my computer just so my parents wouldn't be able to hear anything. I was able to keep on doing that until i got to university. Before that, a bit like you, i didn't notice any big changes in my life. The only thing i noticed was that my grades were a bit worst, but they were still very high, so didn't do anything about it then. Sadly, during my first year of university, i wasn't able to deal with everything IRL because of the incredible amount of time i spent playing videogames, and my life became horrible. My grades dropped (failed my first exam), i started having small health problems because of how inactive i was and my relationships with my parents and friends started to deteriorate a lot.

From my perspective, you can live pretty easily as a child with a videogames addiction. But, the more responsibilities you'll have while growing up, the harder it will get to live with your addiction. Problems you didn't have as a teen appear, and you are litterally screwed at that point.

If you think you have a videogames addiction, it is a very good idea to start working on it as soon as possible. Don't wait for bigger problems to appear to do something about it. That's what i did, and you don't even know what i'd give to go back 4-5 years and deal with my addiction right when it started.

Good luck Rahtoken

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Hi Rahtoken, As I was

Hi Rahtoken,

As I was reading your story, I could see some resemblences to our own story. My son was at around your age when the problems with gaming surfaced and I remember the pokemon cards very well! He was also one of the top students always. I, like your mom, didn't allow him to play on-line games and gave him very limited game time with Xbox (single player). I caught him playing on-line games at the middle of the night once when I unexpectedly woke up!

But unfortunately for my son, things spiraled down very quickly and he could not continue school because he knew he couldn't concentrate on his studies and if he kept going to school, his grades would have suffered, so he dropped out! He is a perfectionist. All or not at all!

By the time we realized (after discovering this site) that he was addicted to gaming, 3 years had past. So, he lost 3 years of his wonderful years to gaming! He lost a lot of opportunities. Because he preferred his gaming time over to be with his friends and even to talk to them on the phone, one by one they stopped calling. After discovering this site and realizing his addiction, he started taking some steps to quit gaming and things have been improving.

I just wanted to tell you a bit of our story so that you are aware what may happen if you do not deal with this problem soon. You coming here and asking questions are great steps forward. Obviously you are a very smart young man and opportunities will be there for you to take. My son now says that it was a mistake what he has done. So hopefully he has learned from his mistakes. We all make mistakes. But we only grow and be a better person if we learn from them.

Good luck to you in your dealing with this issue. I hope you stick around and benefit from the great support, encouragement, understanding and help the recovering gamers can offer you in this great community.

All the best!

"The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." "The first step toward change is acceptance." "Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do." "Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."- Will Garcia

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Welcome to OLGA This is a

Welcome to OLGA This is a great place to get support for an issue that most of the world does not understand. If you do have a problem with video games, this is the place to be.

You made an interesting comment...

Rahtoken wrote:

One other thing, gaming has engrossed me so much that I'm considering a career in this industry.

Did you ever hear of a monkey being successful as a banana salesman? He struggles because he eats all the bananas he's supposed to be selling.

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There's "problem gamers" and

There's "problem gamers" and then there's "gaming addicts".

If you've decided that your gaming is excessive and problematic, then you're a problem gamer. Also, shown by answering Yes to many questions on the diagnostic test.

How to know whether or not you're a gaming addict is looking at what happens when you try to control or moderate your gaming or when you try to stop gaming on your own. As an experiment, set specific strict limits on your gaming and try to stick with them for a month. A gaming addict finds this terribly difficult to near impossible. Then, take a one-month break from gaming entirely. A gaming addict also finds this near impossible, unless he or she switches to a different kind of addictive behavior.

For those of us who are suffering problems from excessive gaming and are unable to moderate our gaming, we face two choices: (1) a life of out-of-control gaming with all its problems and losses, or (2) abstinence from gaming. If you come to a point of choosing (2), we'll be here for you.

What you feed grows, and what you starve withers away.

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