Concerned about my 20 year old son, Spending Thousands.

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Concerned about my 20 year old son, Spending Thousands.

Im sure there is hundreds of these posts already but heres my issue im having. My son is 20 years old who sits in his room  for 15+ hours a day online.  cant get him to go find a job, dropped out of high school, claimed to go to get his ged, still hasn't happened.  took his laptop he was playing on and SOMEHOW he  had  almost 6,000 to buy  a new custom desktop. I questioned the hell out of him where is he getting soo much money. few days later after the pc  he comes home with 3 monitors for the pc.  that costed him 1500. I already made sure he isnt stealing from me or anyone in the house. Took his credit card from him . a few more days pasted and more stuff arives at the house a 500$ chair with a bunch of sound stuff. tryied keeping it from him and  when we got into a huge argument about where is he getting this again  he says  something about a website he plays on.  I went to the bank look at what hes spending money on and hes spent  over 2 thousand on steam?  Im worried to sh** thats hes getting into deep trouble  on the internet.  Tryed taking him to doctors  theripy  countless times in the end I honstly have no clue how to get him into the real world and out of his internet world.

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Welcome christie

Welcome christie

Gaming addiction is strong. It changes personalities.

We cannot cure them but we can stop enabling them if we do not agree with their lifestyle. They can recover but they have to stop gaming and they will only do that if they feel bad consequences.

At 20 he is an adult. He does not need to live in your home any longer. Don't make things easy for him. Your house your rules.

Many of us parents banned gaming in our home; by taking custody of their equipment. If he doesn't like that he is free to leave. If he does not respect any of  your rules, make him leave.

He needs to learn about being responsible for his living costs and consequences of his actions.

He can only carry on with this addiction in your home if you are supporting him to continue. I recommend you read some of our stories and make a plan before you doing anything more.

Give it some deep thought. If you put some time into coming back here to read up it will help you make good choices. Start with reading through all the posts of the 'first aid for parents of addicts' thread linked on my signature below.

Keep coming back! Many parents have been helped by enacting what they have learned from the success of others.

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