His drug of choice is EVONY

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RedRua
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His drug of choice is EVONY

Hi. I've been married to my husband for just over two years and we've been together for five. His drug of choice is EVONY. Began about four years ago when we both played a little together as it was fun and free. I got bored quickly and gave up but he continued to play more and more. When EVONY II came out he was all over it. He has seven seperate accounts and spends real money on the game. Up to EU300 a month. Our honeymoon in Rome consisted of walking around looking for WiFi cafes and looking at the sights while he thought about the WiFi areas. This year we relocated to Brazil for one year to spend time with his family (we normally live in Ireland). We have had spectacular rows over the games and I'm sure our neighbours thought we were killing each other but no. When we came to Brazil he promised to quit (but he didn't) and spend more time with me to work on our very young and rocky marriage (also didn't happen). He has found an automated program (called an Evony Bot) that runs the game for him leaving him to chat with all the other morons online. Flirty little "my wife just dosn't understand me" messages make me SOOOO ANGRY!

However....four days ago.....a miracle!! Some one broke into the house and STOLE HIS LAPTOP!! (it was not me actually, altough I have been tempted to smash it). I have not offered him mine as that will just enable him. Its been better, not great but better. We even watched a movie together last night hugging on the sofa. Washing the dishes tonight he tells me that his friend on Evony facebooked him to say he had left his wife to play the game.....and my husband informed me that as soon as we return to Ireland he can't wait to start playing again.

I almost could have kicked him in the balls. Instead I told him that if that happened that our life in Ireland could not be together and have since stormed upstairs in a fit of anger. I mean it. I will not sit by and watch him become more of an ass and have kids with someone so idiotic.

Phew. Rant over. It is amazing how the mere mention of the "E" word can cause so much anger in me that I want to scream at him "I'm real!!! You're missing out on a REAL PERSON THAT LOVES YOU BECAUSE OF A ******* GAME!!!!!"

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Wow, I didn't know that a

Wow, I didn't know that a game like EVONY would glue a person to it for such a long time. I'm sorry to hear of this but there is a way to fix this.

There is one thing I learned is that, no matter how repetitive the game might be, the only way someone would play for so long is the community. I have played many MMO games, more than I can count and only a few of them have me stuck for such a long time, all because it's my relationship with the community. What your husband is valuing over much more than the real life is the social life in EVONY IMO. Building up a clan, investing huge amounts of money is all for the sake of it's social aspect in game.

Here's how I would relate it. I use to play a game called World of Tanks that I have quit clear cut for about 3 - 4 days now. The reason why I stayed for so long, is for the community. I have over 7k of posts in the North American Server and 11k of battles (each battles is worth around 7-8 mins average). My incentive to play was because I want to help a clan grow stronger through participating battles and grinding the tanks needed to satisfy my clan's requirements. The forum has also rooted me because I realized it satisfied my social aspect of life.

Because I'm not even close to parenthood yet, I will let others try to help deal with this issue. But my point is that, MMOs like EVONY is only addictive if and only if you feel connected with the community there.

Take care and I will pray for your wellness.

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I didn't play Evony, but I

I didn't play Evony, but I played similar games. There are lots of reasons to be addicted to those games. None of them however are ANYTHING that you are or are not doing. It all stems from his own issues. I am very sorry that you have to go through this :( I hope you stick around, you will find lots of support here, there are unfortunately lots of other gaming widows with similar issues.

*hugs*

"A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears." ~Michel de Montaigne

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Hi Redrua, please read other

Hi Redrua, please read other post in this site, it will help understand what other gamers have experienced and help you understand how bad the gaming addiction is. But, please do not ever think that it is your fault in any way, be strong and make choices for your happiness. We also have anon-only meetings every Friday at 4pm pacific/7pm eastern time, come and chat with us as we have similar issues.

Hugs xoxo

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