My husband has been addicted to online games for over 9 years now. He played different games in the past, lately he has been playing WoW non-stop whenever he is at home. He is going to work during the day because I wake him up in the morning and tell him to go to bed when he's up playing late. It has been such a long battle I want to share the details of our past story later, when I have more time on my hands. I've been reading posts on OLGA, for emotional support. Right now I just wanted to quickly ask for your advice about my current situation.
So I recently told him to move out (as I did so many times in the past but this time I really meant it). He found a small apartment not too far. He's getting ready to move out. He's acting all happy about it, like he's going on a trip or something, I guess because he will be able to play the game whenever he wants to without me nagging, shouting, and pulling him all the time. But me, I'm just so sad, angry, helpless, lonely, uncertain about what's going to happen to my family's future. He's agreed to contribute some amount of his salary to support our living costs. The thing is it is very likely that he will get fired because of his game. This summer I took the kids to my parents, and found out that he didn't go to work during that period and stayed in playing 24/7. Things really worsened after that, now he's playing more than he used to. Before he at least played with the kids when I told him to shut down the PC. Now he's acting like he doesn't care, he's moving out anyway.
I have a feeling if I let him go he is going down, I mean really down. If he gets fired from his job there will be no money from him. I'm working part time right now, and going to start working full time soon so we will get by somehow. If he comes back with no money, no job it will be hard to take him back unless he promises he will never touch the game again. I mean the only reason he is living by a normal person's schedule is because I'm making him. My question is, anybody who has kicked out his/her spouse who's a game addict, did you have any doubts, how did you overcome them? I'm so scared and worried, but he is not. I know that this is for the best for me and my two children. Another thing, we are living abroad, I really have no family or friends to help me over here. So it's gonna be a challenge as a single mom. Maybe I'll have to move back to my parents' hometown. I don't have the energy to think about divorce at the moment. That's phase 2 I guess. A few months ago when I was trying to make him quit playing and pushed him, he hit my head real hard it really hurt. Can I ever forgive him? He's talking and acting as if everything is my fault. Sometimes I second-guess myself, what did I do wrong, how was I a bad wife, is the real reason he plays is me? What did I miss? ... Oooh I hate him for making me feel this way. I'm scared now to get physical with him to make him stop, so just using words which are really weak. He says he's moving out in a week, I'm going crazy here, which I'm trying to hide the best I can because I have two kids (1 just a baby) to take care of. I hope I will be more clear-minded after some time. Anyone who went through a similar situation, please give me some advice, comments...
Thank you so much.