Posting this is a HUGE step

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Posting this is a HUGE step

Phew. Ok. I've been wanting to post for a long time, but keep canceling before hitting the button. Taking a big step forward.

Husband is a gamer and has been for a long, long time. He backed off for a few years but is back on again. He uses the usual excuses - stress, depression, "it's all I do for myself" etc.

I am detaching but THAT has become an excuse now too. I find it so sad and difficult that someone who has so much to be grateful for in life can't seem to see it.

I acknowledge my part in the early years have contributed to it reaching this point, my acceptence, denial and justification of his actions (may) have made it easier for him to relapse. I also acknowledge his choices are NOT my fault and our children deserve to grow up knowing there is more to being a father and husband than sitting at a computer. I am NOT prepared to go back to the hardcore years.

Thank-you for the support and guidence this site offers.

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Good for you for finally

Good for you for finally hitting "post" - it IS hard, not sure how many time I wrote & rewrote my first entry. Actually voicing there IS an issue is so daunting.

We have to remember that OUR actions didn't "make" our gamers choose to pick up the game - that is THEIR choice to make. I'm glad though that you see that you are not at fault for his choices now. And you're right, your children deserve more than they are getting now. But SO DO YOU.

I feel like I'm stumbling over my words (I'm having a rough morning dealing with the issues stemming from my gamer). This site is awesome and the support you'll receive is so incredbily helpful.

To begin, begin. William Wordsworth

Before you speak, ask yourself: is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence? Sai Baba

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Admitting that there is a

Admitting that there is a problem is the beginning to healing! Congratulations!

Andrew P. Doan, MPH, MD, PhD

My Gaming Addiction Videos on YouTube: YouTube.com/@DrAndrewDoan

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy, DHA or Department of Defense.

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