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Too late...

Well itaEU(tm)s too late for me, but I wanted to share my story with someone out there about how this pernicious game has ruined my life.

For a while, everything was perfect. My girlfriend was the kindest, most caring person I had ever met, and we were in love. We shared so much in common it was often hard to believe I had met someone so perfect for me. I had never really believed in soul mates until I met my Jenny. We got engaged and I was certain beyond a shadow of a doubt that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together.

And then she started to play World of Warcraft.

Over the course of a year I watched in horror as everything I loved about her was erased by this **** game. She was drawn more and more into it this fantasy world. I tried countless attempts to agree a compromise on time spent playing, only for each promise to be broken only a day later. What I didnaEU(tm)t know through all this time was that she was getting closer and closer to another male player. There relationship started to spill over from the game into facebook, then text messages and phone calls. Three weeks ago she came clean about it and told me that she wanted to be with this person she has never actually met.

My life has been utterly destroyed by this game, self esteem shattered, and it seems that there is nothing left of my dear, sweet girl. She is now a person who lives in this fantasy world completely. She even has a boyfriend in there.

My thoughts are with everyone else struggling with this addiction. I only hope you have more luck than I did saving your loved one from itaEU(tm)s evil, vice-like grip.

Phil

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Welcome Phil.  Yours is

Welcome Phil. Yours is such a sad story, but so common here.

I hope you find someone who loves you more than a stupid game. Addiction is a powerful thing.

"Small service is true service while it lasts. Of humblest friends, bright creature! scorn not one The daisy, by the shadow that it casts, Protects the lingering dewdrop from the sun." -------William Wordsworth

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Phil, I started to cry

Phil,

I started to cry hearing about this... I am not very helpful in these situations... but, at least you were not married with a kid, mortgage, and monster debt.

Take care, like you indicated, this might be over, but you sound like a real solid guy and there are a lot of ladies looking for guys like you.

-Tory

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Such a sad story,

Such a sad story, but unfortunately an all to familiar one. I guess Tory is right, better now than it happening after marriage and kids. You did say how the game has ruined your life. While I know you are in a ton of pain over it happening, you seem to have a good understanding and can move on. She is the one who has ruined their life.

I feel bad for her throwing her life away for a fake world, but that's her own demon to deal with. And I can all but gurentee she will wake up from her dream in a few years and be a person like me writing how they threw away part of their life for a stupid game.

Joe

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Thank you all for your kind

Thank you all for your kind words of support. I've been to some pretty dark places since this happened. 37 and single again was not somewhere I ever planned on being. She even had the nerve to phone me up the day after I left to ask me to fix her computer so she could play warcraft.

As you've all suggested, I'm trying to look at the positives - it could have been much worse - although its hard sometimes. Somedays it's been all I could do to put one foot in front of the other and get myself to and from work, but I'm starting to put things together piece by piece, step by step. Each day the voice that wants to laugh at the ridiculous idea of leaving someone who loves you for a relationship founded over text chat in a game gets a little bit stronger.

If there is anyone else out there going through something like this I found the people on survivinginfidelity.com to be a great source of comfort and support, and the people on the Warcraft Widows yahoo group. It helped to read through all the other stories and see that everything I've been through, the blame shifting, the broken promises are shared by everyone who has been through this.

Take care all,

Phil

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Phil, I'm glad you've found

Phil, I'm glad you've found some resources. I think seeing other people's experiences can really help, I know it was important for me coming from the other side.

Joe

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Like all the others have

Like all the others have said Phil in there posts above you sound like a solid thinking guy,and you will find someone that will love the real life as much as you, and want to share it with you.Not escape in a false pixilated world of whispers and chat texts.Stay strong and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

"It's all in your mind...Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life.If you continue to believe as you have always believed,you will continue to act as you have always acted.If you continue to act as you have always acted,you will continue to get what you have always gotten.If you want different results in your life or your work,all you have to do is change your mind." Anonymous...

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