Well my first post here a little over a week ago, I explained my situation about my husband being addicted to an MMORPG and participating in an online emotional affair with another female player..the days that have gone by have been devastating..my entire demeanor has changed...but a few nights ago I discovered that this female he is having this emotional attachment to, has been online two-timing him with yet another player of the same game. I hope he comes to realize how ridiculous this entire ordeal is and I really hope he regrets what he's doing to me....I just think it's kind of ironic how things like that happen......and yet here I still sit......ready to tear up just thinking about all the crap I've been through in the past 3 or so weeks........it really sucks to feel like your life has spiraled out of control and the one person you always have turned to for support isn't even there for you emotionally.......I never thought in my life that I would ever feel this badly......
Dear Dazed,
I *get* where you are -I have been there - pointing the finger at the other woman, finding faults that you hope will change his mind about her.....
I really do understand the pain you are in and the thoughts that are torturing your poor heart right now. But if it wasn't that woman it would be another, if it wasn't that game it would be another.
In your life, the problem is not the other woman, it is your husband.
The only person that can stop your life spiralling out of control, is you.
Good luck sweetheart.
CK
Hey dazed,
I have been in you shoes and it was not pretty. In my situation, my husband "fell in love" with a girl in his guild. I also played the game and knew her pretty well. I think he fell in love with the idea of falling in love and was not really in love. They called eachother by their game character names, not by their real names. I was beyond heartbroken and I moved out and they began a relationship. Since it was based on playing WoW, it did not last very long.
It is so tragic that peoples lives, dreams and relationships are ruined by gaming. You deserve better than this :)
Damiana
Happiness is a choice.....
Dazed, He needs to quit. That situation you describe is all to familiar. There are people who have several in-game wives even. They are bonded (married) to different players. Because each character they play is a "different" person in-game with separate lives. They separate the characters in a literal way. But of course when you get right down to it the same person is behind each one aye. So like it or not it is "cheating" in the most grand of ways. The malady is the game. Not all the other in-game addicted players who are all doing the same thing. The addiction is the problem in his real life...the game.
Ciontea
Nothing ever stays the same...everything is always changing. Life...impermanence.