First aid kit for spouses and significant others of video game addicts

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First aid kit for spouses and significant others of video game addicts

Welcome spouses and significant others of video game addicts! In this post there are several good links to threads that may help you understand your situation and options.

These forums have so much experience of the loved ones of video game addicts from many years. If you take time to search them you may find wisdom that will help you. If you do not have so much time then use the following selected threads to understand what you can do and start you on your journey to peace and sanity.

You need to sign up for free membership to view most of them and then you will also be able to access the member only forums and post on the forums. We do this because we sometimes need a safe space from people who do not understand our problem and might give inappropriate comments or advice.

Our 'welcome advice' for spouses and significant others of gaming addicts is here:

http://www.olganon.org/spouses_of_excessive_gamers

Your partner is a gaming addict. How to GET SUPPORT for YOU:

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/your-partner-gaming-addict-how-get

Learn how to look after yourself and deal with the addict in a healthy way:

Interventions: about communicating your concerns about their addiction to the addict

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/interventions-and-communication-sos

Stop your part in keeping them in addiction (stop enabling them)

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/about-enabling-spousessos-addicted

Start to “Detach with love

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/detachment-what-means-and-how-do-it

Understand and enforce boundaries in your relationship

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/boundaries-what-they-mean-and-how

Find out the possible effects of their addiction on children in the family

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/how-gaming-addiction-parent-can

Learn more about your addict’s gaming addiction

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/supporting-and-understanding-addict

Online affairs; are they as bad as cheating in real life?

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/members-experiences-and-attitudes

These threads are just the start. Keep coming back !

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts click here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

Please help! Donate here

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At My Breaking Point

It is 5:30 am here, and I just woke up to my husband slapping his leg downstairs-he is playing Madden and obviously losing...again. He has been up all night and has not slept at all. He has work this morning, and he does excavation (not totally safe on no sleep). I was up until about 1am making a photo book for my son for his Birthday in a couple of days. We were arguing then because he was yelling, cussing, hitting himself, the couch, etc. I just can’t take it anymore.

This has been going on for YEARS. We have been married 11 years and have 3 children (a 12 year old from my previous relationship, a 6 year old, and a 4 year old). This was also a big issue at the beginning of our marriage. He took a break for quite a while and then got the game again about 6 years ago. We got into a big fight once back then, and I turned the game off. He shoved me into the wall when I was holding our baby girl. That was the only time in our marriage he has ever touched me. He left the house for a week, and when he came home, the game was gone again...for good this time I said. Fast forward to this year. It came back into the house around Christmas time, and our marriage has been going downhill ever since. There has been all-night marathon playing, yelling, screaming, cussing, breaking my coffee table, breaking theTV...you name it. I have threatened divorce more times than I care to admit. I just can’t fathom getting a divorce over a video game, but I feel I have no choice. I am lost-I don’t know what to do. I know how unhealthy this environment is for myself and my children, and I know how unhealthy this is for HIM! I have taken the game away more times than I can count-he always finds a way to get it back. He is so addicted. Please HELP!

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Welcome Coldplay

Welcome Coldplay

You need some support ! You are not alone !

 This thread will help you to find support and strengthen yourself and find sanity

http://www.olganon.org/forum/discussion-spousessignificant-others-olg-anon-members-only/your-partner-gaming-addict-how-get

Keep coming back and readi the links in this post above so that the information can become a part of you.

It sounds like you know what the deal is but you still are stuck. Take some small steps forward and start to make changes. xxx

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts click here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

Please help! Donate here

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