I'm looking for input. Soon my 17 year old gamer will be returning from treatment where he spent 100 days working on a ranch (all good!) away from gaming. Before leaving he mostly played LOL, Team Fortress 2, Skyrim, and Minecraft (there could be others I'm not aware of). He has agreed not to game in our home when he returns (but I don't know that he's fully convinced he should quit gaming all together). Before he left we simply took away the computer, he got severely depressed, defiant, abusive, engaged in self-harm, then we had him entered into the program (where he's very compliant and doing quite well!). I'm saying all this to paint a picture before asking my questions. He has not talked about gaming, in detail, in his letters or during our one three day visit with him. We are in the process of devising some way to allow assess to the internet, but not the gaming, so he will be turning on his computer again and could potentially be faced with all the "stuff" there related to his gaming. The idea of this concerns me deeply and I'm not sure how to handle it. I could either have someone remove all the gaming "stuff" from his computer or he could do it himself in the presence of someone who is more savvy than I. I'm not sure which would be more theraputically beneficial...maybe it depends on the individial. I realize that gamers have an emotional tie to certain aspects of the game, their avatar/character (sorry I don't know all the lingo), the team members, etc. I could ask him how he feels about it, then decide perhaps. I'm talking to an counselor in internet addicition tomorrow who may or may not have an opinion. I thought recovered gamers though could give me the best insight from a personal perspective. As a gamer, how would you handle the transition and what could another do to make it a "healthy" experience as opposed to an "resentment-filled one? I'm trying to be sensitive to his needs, but do what needs to be done to not enable. I'm open to advice. Thank you.
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