I am reaching out to see how many other spouses or loved ones have also lost their connection and sex life. I used to look forward to how loving and affectionate he was and now I become angry and feel rejected for weeks at a time. We used to have so much fun and unless I instigate sex it would never happen. It had broken my self esteem and I feel humiliated trying to be w the man I love and he says "I'll be in bed in a bit babe". And it doesn't happen.
Gaming w friends constantly takes precedence. And now I want to cheat. And get revenge. But that's not the person I am.
Hi
That is a topic that has come up quite a lot recently on the spouses forum. See some of the links below.
http://www.olganon.org/?q=node/48856
http://www.olganon.org/?q=node/49260
Gaming addiction changes the hormone levels in the brain. The excitment and achievement rewards of gaming create artificially high levels of dopamine. The brain wants to continue to get that dopamine hit. That can only be supplied through the game. Sex can become a poor comparison... not enough dopamine to reward the brain in comparison. Addiction makes them out of control ..the focus can only be on the object of their addiction. Addiction bypasses the normal boundaries of behaviour.
It's not fair on you that he is that way. You cannot control someone elses addiction, but you can look after you. I found it helpful to read stories of how others have changed their lives for the better. Keep coming back!
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I find that the opportunities for intimacy are diminishing as he continues to choose gaming over spending time with his family. Our bed times are so mismatched there are no chances for intimacy. He is assuming we will have a second child, but the way things are going that will not happen! I find it very depressing. I am trying to work on filling my life with things and activities for myself and my son, but this is one area where I do really miss my husband.