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Edited by: Aspen Hiker at: 7/13/06 22:44

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Re: One more question

Hello Aspen Hiker,
Thank you for sharing your story. Welcome to OLG-Anon, where we ponder the same questions you have asked, over and over again.

You have very good insight into what is happening here, as far as your boyfriend's addiction.

Quote:1. Would a computer game keep you from being with a beautiful woman you loved that you had many interests in common with? (I guess you can sense my insecurity.... it makes me wonder "what's wrong with me that he wouldn't want to be with me instead?&quot YES

Quote:2. Is it really possible to love another when you're in the midst of pure game addiction? YES
Quote:3. Is there any way at all that I can help him? I care for him so much. I just completed a Master's in Psychology but I have no clue what to do when it comes to him? MAYBE. In the long run, he will have to want to help himself. There are things you can do to be able to live with him and his addiction, if that is how you choose to spend your life. Please look at this post - p198.ezboard.com/folgafrm33.showMessage?topicID=20.topic
Quote:4. Is it possible to come from a really good family (which he has always claimed) and still be a 38 year old with 2 divorces, 4 kids with no contact, unemployed and a gaming addict? I just can't believe his childhood was as good as he says if this is how he has ended up: Am I a Pollyanna? YES - addiction does not happen because of our upbringing. Not all gamers are escaping from something. It does sound like your boyfriend has gotten so far away from his real life, that he has no idea how to get back.

Aspen, as for why you would choose this person to be in your life over someone who is more on the same level as you? Don't ask me. I do the same thing. I take these guys in who have nothing. I think I like to feel needed. I don't know. I think we want to fix them and save them, and help them do better. We can't. They have to save themselves. WE CANNOT MAKE ANYONE ELSE WANT TO LIVE.
Read this. I hope it helps.
p198.ezboard.com/folgafrm32.showMessage?topicID=300.topic

Have you read up on co-dependency? p198.ezboard.com/folgafrm33.showMessage?topicID=22.topic

I truely believe your boyfriend loves you and wants you to stay with him, but his addiction is stronger, so he gives into that.

Aspen, this gaming addiction is a difficult as any other addiction. What did you learn about addictions in your psychology class?

Liz

Edited by: lizwool at: 6/28/06 7:27

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Edited by: Aspen Hiker at: 7/13/06 22:45

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"I had actually come to the conclusion that he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (many NPD's also have co-existing addictions - particularly to the adulation and adoration of others - WoW is a perfect world for NPD's with high ranking characters)..."

I concur. As I wrote here: p198.ezboard.com/folgafrm...=329.topic

"But another major appeal it gives is the ability to be powerful. I'm not sure why I seem to need/want this exactly. I think it may have to do with low self-esteem, or maybe even an egocentricness. Alot of satisfaction is found in "showing off" your powers to the other players in the online world. Especially to "newbs". (new players) People look up to you in the online world when you are very powerful".

Edited by: InSomeNiak at: 6/28/06 19:10

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