"Updating the computer"; what could that mean

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"Updating the computer"; what could that mean

Hello

My son has a powerful gaming computer. He lives with me and i have banned him playing online games because i believe they have been seriously holding him back in life because of disruption to his life.

I have agreed he should have internet contact so I allow him a small amount of time with the door open on his computer, saying that no games otherwise that is the last time he gets to use his compter. He does not want to use my laptop ; it is very slow for one thing but I suspect there are other reasons. When he is not on his own computer his interent cable is turned off so no access and i take away the power lead.

Anyway, he says he is updating his computer and leaves it downloading or uploading stuff with him not being there so it doesn't count as his go.

I know he has had an account with Steam games.

Just concerned his is up to 'Monkey business' to do with gaming. SHould I be concerned?ANy idea's what 'updating' means considering his access to the screen is only 1 hour per day

Our internet is slow; less than 1MB if that makes a difference.

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Hey Polga, Objectively

Hey Polga,

Objectively speaking, "updating" could possibly mean letting the computer run virus scans fully before shutting it down. It could mean allowing Windows to download updates and install. It could mean downloading other utilities or applications needed for whatever work he is doing.

It could also mean he is leaving it on to download games.

When I was younger and living with my parents, they would do quite a bit to hinder my gaming time. They believed, as many parents do, that it gets in the way of studies and positive things a young person should be doing. They'd take away cables, I'd just find more and install them myself. They'd disconnect the second phone line, I'd climb out an escape ladder from my room and into the garage and reconnect it myself. The list is endless. My point is, if he really wants to game, he'll find a way.

There are "better" methods you could implement if you're dead set on proactively limiting his game playing. My best suggestion would be to throttle internet to that particular PC from your router at home. For anyone doing studies or "productive" work on a PC, a super fast internet is not really that necessary regardless of what a gamer will argue for. As long as pages can load fast and some web video clips don't take forever to load, it shouldn't hinder any work.

Also - leaving a computer on all day long can dramatically impact your electric bill. Believe me, I've tested this repeatedly at home and just my ONE gaming rig left on regularly for the month made a $30 difference on my electric bill.
That could potentially be a justification for telling him not to leave it on.

This is a good place to educate yourself and speak with many people who have family members that are addicted to gaming to excess. It's a real thing and there are many resources and links here to educate yourself on it. I'd highly suggest spending some time browsing this site and expanding your knowledge on the seriousness of it.

Good luck,
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So good of you to reply so

So good of you to reply so fast Ascender.

You are right be could get round it if he tried but he is quite lazy and if i catch him playing a game then it's total hard ball.

I think he was updating his game (about a 1GB download) so that he could communicate with his gaming friends, without playing as such. Does that seem logical?

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Polga, He can communicate

Polga,

He can communicate with them without the need of a game. The only reason to update a game is to access the game to play the game.
The only exception to this is for games like MMOs (World of Warcraft) where those games are very social oriented and do indeed have chat rooms built inside them. Again though, once you're in the game to "chat", you will invariably be playing the game as well.

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When I was a game addicted

When I was a game addicted teenager I was ALWAYS up to monkey business. Addicts will use regardless of consequences. I can't say for sure what he is up to, but I believe in trusting my gut. Have you talked to him about it?

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Steam updates from time to

Steam updates from time to time, which are necessary to use Steam (whether it is to chat with friends, post on forums, or play games) These updates are usually pretty quick.

The games ON steam also update, but they are automatic and doesn't usually take too too long (from my experience from dota, borderlands2, left4dead, etc etc) Updates on these games are just for playing the game.

Considering your internet is slow, it could just be a regular update for the computer that would "normally" be quick, but due to a slow connection, it takes forever.

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