How do you handle invitations to play from friends?

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Ashin316
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How do you handle invitations to play from friends?

Day 2. So I get a text message from a friend who asked me to play battle royale with him. So I need some tips on what I should do. First of all it is an invite that makes me feel good. I know I'm a good player. He just started playing, but I have been playing this game over a year. Its an opportunity to show off some skills but at the same time have some fun. 

So the delema is saying no without the guilt of rejecting a invitation that I desperately want to say yes to. So how should one handle this situation?

 

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I say no to video gaming, but

I say no to video gaming, but yes to hanging out.  My friends seem to like board or card games as much as video games, so I can suggest those if someone really wants to play a game.

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I don't know if you're like

I don't know if you're like me, but when I first quit, I had mad FOMO (fear of missing out). You think about how behind your character is going to get, or the lost reputation you'll have if you're not around for a while and people forget how great you were. My guess is that's the real problem here, not the worry about how your friend will react. Your friend will be fine. He won't feel rejected. You don't even have to go in-depth. You can say "Hey sorry man, I decided to chill with the gaming" If he asks why or anything just say "Have some stuff to deal with." Unless this is a good friend, it's totally fine and normal to be vague, and they probably won't even press it.

I know part of this whole group is accountability etc. but my personal opinion is you need to be accountable with people you're close with, like your family and good friends. If it's just a casual gaming buddy, they don't need to know what you're going through. If he's a good friend, you can open up when you're ready.

I swear the longer you stay away from games, the easier it is to not be lured back by this kind of thing, because the whole prestige thing is part of the addiction. It gets milder and milder the longer you're away from it.

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How to respond

First you need to step back for a minute, remember what gaming did to you, and how you are and will be unable to control your gaming.

Once you are sure that you do not want to go back to this place, the most efficient answer is " Hi X, it is nice to hear from you. Thanks for the invitation but I don't play game X any longer. However I would love to [have a Skype discussion / go to the mall / play a game of tennis / whichever most suitable alternative.]"

 

After this, either the other person is a gaming addict too and he will decline and you won't hear from you again, or he isn't and will accept your counter-proposal - in which case not only did you avoid gaming but you will also have found something interesting to do. 

 

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