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Achievement Points are more important

I too have  my wife to the games.  She left in a blaze of glory a month ago and from what I am assuming she has not sought out any therapy for herself.     She bailed to live elsewhere because I was ****ed about her playing 60 hours a week.   She thinks I am either jealous of her friends and or I do not understand the culture of gaming.  I do, actually.  As any good spouse would do I have looked up everything there is about addiction, digital addiction, video gaming addiction and impluse control.  The addict will only seek help when the chips are stacked up against them.  Maybe they will.  I at this point, I am taking great care of myself, hanging out with amazing friends and praying and of course crying.  Sometimes, I cry at the gym, in my car, at work, etc.  I am feeling everything and it totally sucks.  The active addict does not feel.  They are stuffing their feelings into the games or god knows what.     I did enable my wife for a time.  I enabled her becasue it was the only time she was nice to me.  The "gamer high" usually lasts for about 24 hours.    I am sure many of you are also blown away that our loved ones are squandering their life away all for the sake of achievements points.  For help go to either Alanon or Narc-anon.  We all need a sense of community, one with flesh and blood engagement and not through texting or gaming.     The meetings will help.  You will find worth for yourself once again as I am trying on a daily basis.  For that I will keep coming back! Thanks for letting me share. 

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Thanks for sharing your

Thanks for sharing your update. I'm glad you have plenty of support to get your through.

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Wow, I'm going through the

Wow, I'm going through the same thing, if I try and talk to her about it she gets angry at me and tells me the same thing. I am jealous, I'm jealous of how much time they get to spend with her instead of me. I too enable her so that she won't be angry at me and then the little time I get her while she is not in the game is like heaven to me, I just wish the only time she wasn't on the game wasnt only when she is asleep or when we are intimate. I am hoping she snaps out of this soon, I don't know what to do, we have three children together and she has three older children that still live with us. it's hard and I just keep praying that she will snap out of this soon. 

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God Bless you Ron.  Best

God Bless you Ron.  Best advice is try not to control her.  Take care of you.  Look up co-dependency on you tube and gaslighting as well.  There are a ton of videos regarding gaming addcition.  There is another site called gamequitters.com which helps the gamer get  back into society.  The thing about recovery the addict has got to want it.  Keep praying... Presently my wife is gaming now in a small room with her headset, the tv and the Xbox One.  I actually started to journal her behavior and how it effected me.  It was a constant reminder that she is an addict and you are doing the best that you can with the situation.  

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Hang in there guys.  I am

Hang in there guys.  I am going through the exact same thing with my wife.  Elder Scrolls Online is her drug of choice about 50 hrs/week.  I have started alanon.  It does help, but at some point her gaming will have to change if we are to make it.

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