Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Spiritual Principle - Faith
We choose to let go of self-will.
What does this mean? It simply asks that we make a decision that involves giving up control of our lives and to hand it over to the God of our understanding. That's a scary concept -- to submit our lives over to some entity that we don't even know? But that's why the phrase "God as we understood Him" is included. This implies that our understanding of God is an evolving matter. It continues to grow, provided that we work on our spirituality. Therefore our ability to trust in this Higher Power is related to our current understanding of Him (or whatever you wish to call your Higher Power).
This step is not limited to online game addiction. In fact, all these steps are applicable to all aspects of our lives. But as a concrete example specific to online gaming, one can apply this step by making a decision to give up control of gaming and to trust that there is a higher being that is able to empower you to stop your addictive behavior and to remove your obssessive thoughts, as wellA Taking this step basically calls you to give up your decision making with regard to whatever it is and to be willing to accept and carry out your understanding of God's will with regard to the matter at hand.
A prayer we can say is: God, I offer myself to Thee to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!
Yeah, this step is a freebee in a sense. But it has a hidden trap. While there is nothing physical to do, it requires the most important part of undertaking a healing process such as this...the leap of faith.
I remember in Indiana Jones, he had to cross over an "invisible" bridge to get to a platform where the Holy Grail was that he had been searching. He nervously thought about it as the ground rumbled around him, until he finally literally took a leap of faith and was able to cross the bridge. Those who tried to cross but who did NOT have the faith, fell to their death in the dark abyss below.
I think this step can manifest itself in many ways. Often it can be accomplished merely by praying, because prayer in a sense is a leap of faith which infers turning over one's life to God or his higher power, or whatever he wishes to call it.
This step can also be terrifying...especially for someone who has never before made a 'leap' such as this. But wow, how it can change lives once someone does it sincerely. While my faith is not Christian, my spirituality is filled with faith of various levels. Sometimes it's easy, sometimes it's hard to trust, but the more one does it, the easier it becomes.
Ron Jaffe AKA Diggo McDiggity
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