Do You Think Your Child is Addicted to Video Games?

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Do You Think Your Child is Addicted to Video Games?
Do You Think Your Child is Addicted to Video Games?

Dr. David Greenfield has a conversation with Sue Schaefer on how to identify this problem, and what to do about it.

It seems like we toss around the term "addiction" rather easily.

Chocolate, shoes, yoga, puggles, Pinterest; we can't just like something a lot, we have to be "addicted" to it. But, what actually constitutes a real addiction?

Actually, there are two types of addictions: substance addictions and behavioral addictions. With a behavioral addiction, a person will obsessively think about, and compulsively engage in an activity, even though there are harmful consequences. If your son spends all his waking hours counting down the minutes until he can play Call of Duty, you may have a problem. If he has stopped studying, hanging out with friends, or sleeping to get in more playing time, you definitely have a problem.

As I mentioned last week, I recently sat down to discuss video game addiction with Dr. David Greenfield author of Virtual Addiction. He is one of the leading authorities on internet and cyber psychology, including its use and abuse.

Sue: Let's start with the obvious - can playing video games be addictive?

Dr. Dave: The unpredictability and novelty of the internet medium itself is addictive. Video games work on the principal of operant conditioning. When playing the game, the reward center of the brain is stimulated releasing dopamine, a powerful "feel good" chemical in the brain. In addition, the player doesn't know when the reward is coming, making it all the more addictive. He or she will continuously play, looking for that "hit" of dopamine.

Sue: It seems boys are more attracted to video games than girls. Why is this?

Dr. Dave: Boys are more likely to become addicted to video games because they are hardwired for competition. It is easier and less stressful to have virtual social interactions, and it gives them the opportunity to be "King of the Hill" in the virtual world, which is something they might not get in the real world.

Sue: One way to get a kid to stop playing is to just throw the Xbox away. Is that what you would tell parents to do?

Dr. Dave: Getting rid of the gaming device, while it seems like a good idea, isn't the best way to handle a video game addiction. In extreme cases a child can get violent when it is taken away due to the withdrawal component. You want to break the cycle without causing a rift in the family.

Sue: What should parents do to break that cycle?

Dr. Dave: Before a child can be weaned off the virtual world, it is imperative to strengthen real world experiences. There are other ways to increase dopamine levels, such as sports, academic accomplishments, and trying out for plays. Having alternative activities also has the benefit of eating up time, which leaves less time for gaming. Of course, parents should limit and monitor use of video games, texting, and social networking. Just being more involved in your child's life will help your child kick the habit.

Do you think your child may have a video game addiction? How about an addiction to texting or the internet? If you do, come hear Dr. Greenfield speak about this subject at Hall High School in West Hartford on Wednesday, Feb. 29 at 7 p.m. There will be an opportunity to ask questions following the presentation.

Sue Schaefer is a student advocate, academic coach, and certified teacher. We encourage you to visit her website: Academic Coaching Associates. You may email Sue at

You can also follow Sue on twitter: @sueschaefer1

About this column: West Hartford's Susan Schaefer, director and founder of Academic Coaching Associates, answers your questions about education.

Andrew Doan MD PhD

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*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy or Department of Defense.

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I like this Doctor's more

I like this Doctor's more moderate approach to helping children. I kind of agree that taking away his or her games completely may be too extreme. It boils down again to being involved in children's lives as a responsible adult and to engage them in healthy and constructive ways.

I know that when I was denied tv as a child I just went to someone else's house to watch it (occasionaly anyway) so sometimes if a parent is too strict it just sets up more of a desire in the child to experience what is "forbidden." If your friends are online then you want to be as well - as a rule. Very few kids march to their own tune or want to be different from their peers in most things. It's tough I think being a parent lol.

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