Breaking free of your Addiction
Computer addiction is just as serious as any other addiction like smoking or drinking, if not worse. Not only does it rob you of your own life, it has very negative effects as well. Now you might feel or tell yourself that you are not addicted and you can stop when you want. But if you have any of the warning signs below, then there is a high chance that you do need some help.
* You start the day telling yourself you will do something productive (study, exercise etc.) but end up playing your computer game.
*You lose interest in going out (with friends or family) as you rather stay home to play your game.
* You play for hours on end and end up feeling guilty (or have a sort of bad feeling after that)
* You start to feel isolated from your friends, and sometimes comfort yourself thinking, I'm having fun here anyway.
* Switching on the computer is the first thing you do in the morning or after school
* You cannot spend a day without playing your computer game
* You have undone assignments/homework because of the time spent on your game
* Your parents have nagged/scolded you for using the computer too long.
* Even when you are not playing the game, you are thinking about it.
Well then, before we go into how to cure this addiction, we have to understand the reasons why the game is so addictive, why it holds us down, and why many people fall prey to it.
Loads of computer addiction arises from massive multiplayer online games. There is half life, neopets, runscape (even habbo hotel) just to list a few.
What exactly makes them all so addictive?
Firstly, these games are based on status/power/riches and there is competition within a community.
Let me explain. In these games, you strive to earn more wealth, get greater stats etc. There is no end to it, you want to become better and better. And there is a huge reward and respect from the other people playing in the game. The feeling that you are superior and that you are in control is something you derive from it. So you continue and continue to try to get more and more, even if it means playing for hours.
Secondly, these games provide IMMEDIATE excitement.
Things to do, money to be made, worlds to explore, even people to kill. It just pumps your adrenaline (subconsciously or consciously). Open seeing the login screen, you feel excited and happy. Something fun to play, something fun to do! And then the fun lasts until you know you have been playing way too much, leaving your seat only for food or toilet breaks. But even then, you can't stop because you have to get more and more, find more things to do. You have been then, transported to that world and it turns into your reality, making you hate to leave it.
Lastly, it is the easiest form of escapism.
As mentioned above, the game becomes your reality, so that you are almost living in it. You have transformed the fun and excitement into something you feel you can live by. You immerse yourself into the game and you find you don't have to care about anything else. Your enjoyment takes priority and even if you want to break free, it is a struggle because many times, pleasure takes over common sense.
Well now we now the reasons, have identified them and put them down to clear hard facts, we know that it is not uncommon for addiction to take place. You are not alone in your struggle but that is not an excuse to continue in it because if not curbed, the effects are almost devastating. Before we go on, let me tell you a true story of a girl who was addicted to computer games so that we can learn from it.
The story of a girl who got addicted
Crystal (not her real name) was your better than average teenage girl. She was not only pretty, blessed with bright eyes, she was sporty and intelligent to boot. She had great friends and a great family as well.
But later in the year, her friend had introduced her to Neopets. She started to play in regularly, with her friends as well. With her intelligence and savvies, she managed to earn lots of points. Being "rich" made the allure of the game hang on. However, had friends had stopped, as they themselves couldn't derive as much fun out of it as her, (they were not really good in making "money").
So what started of as a social fun (played with friends), turned into a personal addiction. Gradually, she stopped going out with her friends spending her waking hours away on the computer, earning more and more reputation in the online world, yet slowly becoming more and more isolated.
Not only did playing for hours on end affect her social life, it literally took over her life. She spent constant time thinking about it, how to earn more points etc. It was so attached to her to the point that a loss on the game would make her feel extremely upset. As there was little else she did, her talents could not develop and started fading away. Her life while making steady progress in her game, had reached a dead end socially, emotionally and physically.
The horrific thing was, all the bad, bad computer rays and constant sitting down as well as poor diet that followed as she was too consumed in her game caused her once pretty face to become spotted with pimples and become red and blotchy. Yet she just could not control it. The worse things outside became, the more and more attached to game she got. Soon, her friends started to leave her. While they did not taunt her or whatsoever, she had simply not invested time into the relationship and so it could not grow. Her friends efforts were lost on her and the inevitable happened. She had changed from a sparkly girl to a quiet girl with no really close friends to call her own. Sure, she still had her family but even ties with her parents were strained because of their constant scolding and nagging of her use of the computer.
Also, her studies took a drastic drop. Time supposed to be use as a student to learn knowledge and harness it was wasted on her game. She knew it was not the right thing to do, yet she could not break free. Every night, she left the computer, puffy eyed, feeling guilty and horrible. She told herself, not to repeat it, but she still did. It wasn't until she got "scammed" (cheated by another player on line of her money) that she stopped playing. She felt angry, bitter and upset. It was almost as though her whole life was taken away from her since the computer game was what took up most of her life.
However, after a few weeks, she got over it and in fact, became much more happy. She was free. It needed that hard knocking event to cure her of her year old addiction but she managed.
Now, you don't have to wait till that day happens before you can stop your addiction. You can do it right now!
To give a brief overview, Computer addiction will bring about many harmful effects
* Deteriorating studies, poor grades
* Lack of social life
* Harm to outward appearance (acne, fat)
* Poor eyesight
* Rruined future
Trust me, COMPUTER ADDICTION HAS TO BE BROKEN. It gives you NOTHING in reality. It is all make believe. Like in the matrix, you take the red pill, or the green pill. Sooner or later, you have to wake up. And if you don't there will be consequences.
Trust my instructions, and you can be free right after this, now and today. you must summon a burst of willpower but please, listen to me, let me help you help yourself.
Remember this. It is not worth it to spend your life on a game. It is something you will regret. This obsession will end one day, why not end it now. It leads to nowhere. There is nothing but a dead end down the road. (trust me on this, I know). Instead, if you spend your time on meaningful things, you will watch your life grow and not only will you feel true satisfaction, others around you will notice your change too.
How to break free
The stories, consequences and reasons above should have given you some want to end your addiction. If you already feel it, DO NOT hesitate. ACT NOW. Go to the site where your game is and DELETE your account. If you do not how to delete it, just go and give away/waste all the money or possessions you have. However, the best way is to still delete it.
If your game is on a CD, delete the game from your computer and then throw the CD. You might think it's a waste but the only thing you'll get from keeping it is more waste. Do not pass it to someone else, you don't want another addict.
I know this is hard, a old bondage is hard to break. But quick, let your fingers move, do it now.YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER. YOUR LIVE WILL IMPROVE. YOU WILL GET BACK ON TRACK. RETURN TO REALITY, IT CAN BE JUST AS FUN.
If you have succeeded in doing this, share your joy with me. EMAIL me with your success story. I'd be extremely glad. If you still feel you can't do it, that the addiction is too strong, EMAIL me too. I will try my best to understand you and help you.
Once you have broken free of this addiction, there are a world of things for you to explore. Not only can you focus on your studies, there is much more time for friends and family, and you know, picking up a new skill (like a sport) is a fun thing too! Occupy your life and you won't turn back to computer games. Addiction is evil, stay far away from it.
Edited by: lizwool at: 3/18/12