I'm slow on the uptake sometimes, but in watching this presentation - and it's just a guy with a Power Point presentation but incredibly informative - finally I understood exactly why addiction has nothing to do with willpower or lack there of, at least not if one equates willpower, as I always have, to overcoming urges by exerting internal force (crush, kill, destroy). Bruin explains why successful recovery is ongoing, not something we do once and we're done with. The tools we gain in recovery are ours for the rest of our lives, but we have to choose them, use them each day, one day at a time.
There are 9 videos in this series. In the 2nd or 3rd, he explains how addiction is rooted in the limbic system - the survival portion of our brain that has no shame, no guilt, no morals and the portion of our brain we can't crush, kill, destroy, but can learn to manage with acceptance and mindfulness. In other words, beating ourselves up for being human is useless! Let's not! Rather, let's rise to a higher level and live. :)
Garrit may have linked to these before. Can't remember.
Acceptance. When I am disturbed, it is because a person, place, thing, or situation is unacceptable to me. I find no serenity until I accept my life as being exactly the way it is meant to be. Nothing happens in God’s world by mistake. Acknowledge the problem, but live the solution!