Please help, my husband is addicted to video games

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Please help, my husband is addicted to video games

My husband is addicted to video games and I honestly dont know who to turn too.

We've been married for a little more than a year, and he always liked playing games but never to this point. He spend hours each day playing Destiny and dosent go to bed until around 2 am. It even started affecting his school, and he had to withdraw from the sememster in order for keep from getting kicked out of the school. He failed 4 out of the 5 classes he was taking. His academic advisor even told him that if it happens again he will definitly be kicked out. At this point I'm completly frustrated. Especially since he only works while school is in session due to him being a tutor. I come home from work to see him playing destiny, no help with chores or dinner. He says that its his time to play since its winter break and will be busy later. What kind of excuse is that?

I got mad a him yesterday, and told him thats no excuse. I had more classes and worked double the hours he did without failing, telling him that if he didnt shape up it would end in our divorce. I could see my words hurt him, but I was just so upset. I don't even know if I did the right thing or if I made it worse.

I don't know who to talk to about this, I've always gone to my parents for advise but I feel that if I tell them whats going on they will just end up resenting him for it. Telling his mom? that just fells low. I know his mom knows a little about it, his sister complained to his mom about it (her husband is also addicted and my husband is always playing with him.) but they dont know how much it has affected him. A counsler? He dosent think he has a problem, he says that if he really had a problem he wouln't accompany me to the grocery store or to my parents house.

Anyways thanks for reading my rant, I just needed to get this off my chest.

 

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Hi codexYou are not alone.

Hi codex

You are not alone. Thanks for sharing your story. I found it most helpful to read other spouses stories and advice. Keep coming back and it all starts to make more sense.

Here is a good starting post: here

We cannot control someone elses addiction, but we can refuse to enable them to continue and also we can change our attitude and detach from their choices so that we can find hapiness in other areas and peace. It can be done.

Hugs to you xx

 

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Edited 6 May 2015 to update links

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