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Time Played on WOW

One of the tools that spouses/parents can use to check the time played in Blizzard's World of Warcraft is a command /played.  When typed in at the command line, it will who how many days/hours/minutes the specific character was logged in.  Below is a step by step for those that are not familiar with the game to check these stats.

1.  First you must obtain the login ID and password of the account you want to check.  Most of the time you will have to ask the gamer for that information.  If you are a parent, you may be able to get the information from Blizzard, but not having ever done this, I do not know what specifically they require for you to be able to do this.

2.  Start up the game. 

3.  Login to the game using the information from step one.

4.  At this point, there are two possible screens that could pop up.  The one that is most likely to pop up is the character screen of the last server the player logged into (will have a 'list' of characters along the right side of the screen).  If this is the screen that popped up, click on the change servers button in the upper right hand corner to get to server list screen.  If it isn't the characters screen that popped up after you logged in, then you should already be at the server list screen.

5.  To see ALL the characters of a gamer, click on the title at the top of the list that will show the number of characters on each server.  I would be more specific, but it has been a while and I can't remember.A  I no longer have the game installed so I can't look for myself.  This should give you a short list of the number of characters on each server at the top of the list so now you know which servers to check and how many characters to check on each server.

6.  Click on a server and wait for the character screen to load.

7.  Click on a character on the character list.  This should load the game itself.

8.  Click the ENTER key.  This should load a command line, most likely in the lower left hand corner of the screen.

9.  Type /played in the command line and hit enter. This should give you the information you desire for that character only.

10.  Hit Enter and type /logout to leave the game and move onto the next character.

11.  Repeat for each character on each server. I hope this helps.  Like I said earlier, this is done from memory and I last played in March/April.  If anyone has any corrections or additions to this list, please reply to this post and I will make changes (or one of the admins can) as needed. Kathy

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Re: Time Played on WOW

If the character screen doesn't load first, like Kathy said, you will probably get a SERVER list. The servers that the player has toons on, will most likely be at the top. If not, you can click on one of the server information category 'tabs' at the top of the box. One of the columns should be CHARACTERS or something to that effect. Clicking on that column tab, will bring all the servers that the player has toons on, to the top. If not, click it again. Logout: Hitting will bring up the "chat" line, that commands can be entered on, as well. Typing "/LOGOUT" will log the current character out, and take you back to the current server character list.

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Stickied. Thanks for posting it again Kathy.

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"Katesha " wrote:

1. First you must obtain the login ID and password of the account you want to check. Most of the time you will have to ask the gamer for that information. If you are a parent, you may be able to get the information from Blizzard, but not having ever done this, I do not know what specifically they require for you to be able to do this.

I really really doubt that you would be able to get Blizzard to give the info to you no matter what but one thing you can do is open the game in it should take you to a login screen and one of the options was to remember the account name and if they have that still in there you can take the name to the worldofwarcraft.com and go to account and find the password. The secret code will be the only thing blocking and usually its something like "Where were you born" or "What is your pets name?" you will also have to get into the email to retrieve the PW but you can also get into that by the same thing if you know their email and the answer to the secret qustion. I hope this helps.

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That's true, family-based secret questions are likely crackable by any parent. "That's right son, I know your first car, I bought it for you, heh." And once you're in, you could do great damage to your kid's avatar, for example by throwing away all the leet gear. But if you do this, be prepared for the same kind of explosion that happens when an alcoholic finds all his booze thrown out, even his secret stash... So be careful.

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WOW is a horrible game!

its sucks u in with addiction

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I wish the game had never been invented. Its taken my son and changed him into someone that I don't even know. He would rather play WoW than to breathe! I really feel sorry to for anyone who gets sucked into this horrible game world. Katbird

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I am brand new here, and for the first time in many years now :( I am very happy to find a place where I don't feel like an idiot or some crazy woman. Just like so many stories that I have been reading, I have been suffering now for 9years, 3months and a few days to a husband who is an addict. I can't even begin where someone else hasn't said what I have felt over all of this time. My husband began surfing the internet in 1999 with our first "Brand new" computer. And boy were we excited. My husband was instantly lured into the porn and porn chat world. This went on for 4 years, with all of his free time (and mine) used to talk about his deepest, darkest desires to another woman and/or other women. I was really upset and hurt, and sincerely felt that he was unfaithful. But of course, he denied having any troubles, and "I was crazy to think of such a thing as an addiction". Time went on, and he cured from the porn realm only to fall into the terrible hands of Blizzard. Now i can't even begin to portray my life once Blizzard stepped in. I was in the military and deployed overseas when WoW came into view. My 3 children were left in the hands of Nickelodeon and Cartoon Network, and only new friends like Dora and Blue. Dinners for them consisted of overcooked microwave dinners and chocolate, cookies, chips and soda. Laundry no longer meant to ever be clean, pee-stains became the permanent floor color, bugs invited their friends over for meals.... and so on. I came home only to find that my children had rotten teeth, and little to no respect of parental authority. Let me tell you, this is where the heartbreak began. For 1 full year, my husband put on 100 pounds. He began to claim those on-line were his friends. At the time he was also in the military. And while there were rules to weight and time employed, my husband managed to have people feel sorry for him being a single-parent. (Which was some truth). Instead of going to the gym with his extra minutes in the day while the kids went to school, he went home to get the latest gear from his pvp'ing. And so the story continues...... I decided after this year of pleaing, arguing, yelling, ignoring, and wasting my time....if I can't beat him, join him....give him a taste of his own medicine.... But now I am only left with knowing more about a world that does exist for those that play games on-line (MMORPG), to be more saddened by the knowledge that "yes, my husband is talking to other women...yes, he is very happy playing the game... and yes, all of the things that I dream about in my relationship with my husband, has been replaced by a world that DOES NOT EXIST!!!!!!! Since then, my husband has been kicked out of the military, because his sad story did not cover his now 135 pound weight gain. (Of course it is their fault....or so his family thinks so) I have left the military also, realizing that my husband has now become an official "World of WarCRACK" addict, thinking that family and friends at home would come to the rescue. But what i have encountered instead is absolute oblivion. :( I tried kicking my husband out...he left the game...he found women to talk to. He got a job, started school and said that he had changed. I packed everything up, moved me and the kids, only to find out that the life he said he had planned was a figment of his imagination(as most of his life had become) and to be absolutely poverty stricken.... and barely making ends meet. I am at the end of my rope here...and finally I have found a place where I am no longer the only one. Maybe this is a sign from God to give it another go from another direction. I was just about to sign up for AA meetings. I really do feel like me and my kids are victims of a horrible addiction that will end up killing my husband. He is now morbidly obese with diabetes and high blood pressure...and he is only 31. I would like to take a moment and mention (and thank) to those of you who created this site. You just may be saving my husband's life..... Dawn

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Welcome Dawn. What a sad story. Please read the post at the top of the I Need Help for Friends and Family Members of Gamers forum that deals with spouses/SO's. You are not alone.

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Dear Dawn, welcome here. I am glad you found us, too. What a sad and powerful story. I wish everyone who denies the reality of gaming addiction could read it. I just had a few questions for you: Is your husband still living at home? Is he employed? Are you the sole support of the family? Who is taking care of the children while you work? Are you, yourself, still playing WoW? If you care to, I know I would like to find out more about your situation. We can offer support and caring here, and would like to stretch out the hand of friendship to you. Jane in CT

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Jane in CT, Thank you for your response. I would love to answer your questions. Here goes..
Yes, at this time he is living with me and the boys. He is currently employed for minimum wage at about 20 hours a week (now I do have to tell you that after 1 year of not working at all, this is some progress). He states that anything more might stretch his time to thin. He is also taking a college course, however...barely passing, but I realize that it is a start (considering that I spent over $5000 in college fees for him to only quit attending). At this time, I am financially providing for my family, I have allocated specific bills for my husband to pay. I have been blessed with an in-home job, which means when I am at work, my kids are with me :) And yes, on occasion, I turn on WoW. I don't know much else to say or where to even start. I have felt very alone in this process over the years, and I have some trouble deciphering the best decisions for him. I want so much to be a part of his life and so I find that even playing Wow (on occassion, once or twice a week) I hope for a connection :( When I see a glimmer of hope, I jump only to find that there really isn't anything there at all. I am not sure if anyone has ever read their story aloud to their spouse, but that is what i did last night just after I submitted my post. And let me tell you.....he was really upset... But of course, he does feel guilty and in fact, today he wanted to make everything better, but just as I am sending this post, he is on WoW. He mentioned a time period of when he could play, but I don't have much trust in him, because even if he plays when the kids are sleeping, he will play until the weeeee hours of the morning. Anyway, I am sure that there are more out there like me, and I only hope to understand this whole mess better so that I can move forward with my kids (with or without my husband). I am not looking for someone to solve my problem, but someone who will help to strengthen me....

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Good morning Dawn, thanks for clarifying those points. You truly are in a tough place here. That was very interesting that you read your story to your husband, whether he is still playing WoW or not, it has to have given him lots to think about. I am extremely glad to hear that at least your husband is working, that does seem like a substantial step up over last year. Have you read the post at the top of the parents forum for spouses of gamers? That might be a good place to start. The next thing you can do is start getting educated about the addiction phenomenon, and what we "anons" (parents, friends, loved ones) of addicts can do. It is hard to sum it all up into a paragraph or two, but a big part of it involves realizing that, while the addict himself is powerless over his gaming, we as the "anons" are powerless over the addict. What we can do is care for ourselves, and our children or the other people for whom we're responsible, and turn the rest of it over to our Higher Power. Does this mean we give up? No, because the rest of the equation is that we also stop "enabling" the addict. This means, we no longer set those physical or emotional conditions that permit the addict to continue to "pick up." We do not do anything that makes it possible for the addict to play - we do not take care of their basic life functions so they can play. We no longer lie for, or about, our addict. We do not shield the addict from the consequences of his behavior. As you recognize, the decision is yours to make about whether your marriage ultimately goes forward. It must have taken incredible strength and forbearance even to get to this day. I know that you hardly need any more assignments or work, but as you read and learn about addictions, I am willing to bet you will see your husband... and maybe even yourself... in many stories and accounts. You will gather the insight and wisdom that will help you decide what path is right for you now. Best wishes, Jane in CT

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I am here because my husband's sister needs help. I am a stay at home mom and everyone else close to the situation is at work, so I am trying to find some solutions for all of us. She moved here from Colorado with her boyfriend and daughter. They moved in the her mother and are still living there. She is a smart young lady (24) with an associates degree. She got a good job right away and within a year was pregnant with her second child. She's always had a weight problem but it didn't seem to stop her from doing anything. She started out playing games online and gradually but quickly it has taken over her existence. I don't know who is suffering more for it, her, her partner, her mother, or her children. She quit her job. She hardly leaves the house. she has gained more weight. She ignores everyone including her children. She sleeps from late afternoon until midnight so that she can game most of the night undisturbed. Then she sleeps some more. We're not totally sure what she does during her waking hours of the day. We hope for the best since her small son is home with her. She has little to nothing to do with her children. Or anyone else for that matter. Her partner is frustrated and worried about her and their children. Her mother works two jobs only to come home and try to keep up with the cooking and cleaning and laundry. He comes home and does what he can to help with the yard and take care of the children. My husband (her brother) used to come in and say things like "get off the computer and spend time with your family" but he doesn't say anything anymore. We all just mill around like she's not there. I have made attempts at small talk but she doesn't have time for that. I won't go into the comments I have heard her make or the things I've been told she says to them but she is downright hateful. I hate it for my mother-in-law especially, I know she wants things to be different but I think she is afraid that if she makes too much of a fuss, Robyn will take her grand children and leave. Losing those grandbabies would break her heart. This was pretty much confirmed for me this morning when I talked to grandma about the possibility of getting rid of the computer. Her only response was "She'll be furious!" So today, I will be printing out as much information as possible, so that the working folks in our family can get the same information I've been reading and hops that together, we can come up with some ways to deal with this. We need Robyn back!

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Xandtar wrote: That's true,
Xandtar wrote:

That's true, family-based secret questions are likely crackable by any parent. "That's right son, I know your first car, I bought it for you, heh." And once you're in, you could do great damage to your kid's avatar, for example by throwing away all the leet gear. But if you do this, be prepared for the same kind of explosion that happens when an alcoholic finds all his booze thrown out, even his secret stash... So be careful.

Excellent point worthy of reinforcement. Tread carefully on this.

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Xandtar, cracking is

Xandtar, cracking is illegal. Even for a parent. Your responses about throwing away "leet gear" and doing "damage to your kids avatar" is an aggressive and counter productive way to develop a trusting relationship with a child. You should just kick his door down and throw the computer out of the window, no point in sneaking around like a crook in your own home. Especially if that's your solution.

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Zero, I'm pretty sure that

Zero, I'm pretty sure that Blizzard will actually give the information about a minor child's account to his parents, and I'm pretty sure it is not illegal if it is your own minor child.

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The whole point of my post

The whole point of my post is that a parent should NOT do it. It won't stop the addiction and it will create rage. I was just trying to be a little, er, diplomatic about it.

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  If possible, make him

If possible, make him having a full time job and NO GAME a condition of his coming home. Otherwise you will just be enabeling him.

Why does he want to come home ? Are his parents fed up with his playing ?

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Sad01, Is his moving in with

Sad01,

Is his moving in with you, a good thing for you? It doesn't sound that way, and should answer the question for you.

What does he add to your life? How would his returning to the home affect your daily living?

You will simply be enabling him and bringing havoc to your own life. Perhaps this is a good time for you and his parents ( who I suspect have tired of his addiction) to intervene and tell him you will not be a hostage to his addiction and he needs to find his own place to live while he games.

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I find it disturbing that no

I find it disturbing that no one has mentioned Parental Controls. As a legal guardian, before even allowing a child to play a game such as an MMORPG, I would recommend doing a full research about the game the child is about to play.

The easiest and most effective way to monitor game play and assure the child is NOT allocating more time to the game than the parent/guardian wants is Parental Control. You can find a link to the location of this service Blizzard offers here: http://www.worldofwarcraft.com/info/faq/parentalcontrols.xml

This is not just for children. Spouses, significant others or the player himself/herself can use it too in order to control their game time.

I find it unfair to blame a game or a company for something we should have control over.

Thank you for reading.

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If parental controls could

If parental controls could have helped me, fine, but my addiction was not about lack of ways to control my game time. I did not want to stop and was unable to want to stop...even in the face of horrible consequences. Every limit I put on my game time was broken as soon as I started playing. And I think that the drive to succeed at the game overpowered the drive to have balance in my real life. It was an ADDICTION, not a lack of limit setting.

Just like alcoholism, the only solution has been absolute removal of the game from my life...and now I have 24 days game free. I'm beginning to feel more rested, and able to think more clearly. I'm beginning to have a noticeable sex drive, and a desire for companionship, also...things that were gone while playing World of Warcraft. I'm beginning to take interest in the community I'm living in, and the home I'm living in. I'm starting to clean up the wreckage that the addiction caused me.

Before starting to play Wow, I was in recovery for compulsive overeating and I lost my abstinence within months of starting to play WoW....and I gained back the weight I'd lost plus 15#...I've already lost 10# of that weight and the swelling in my feet is now gone completely...but the pain in my legs is horrible as I start moving around after 4 years of such a sedentary addiction.

It's true, we SHOULD have control over how much time we play, but we addicts don't have that control.

sad01: I support you in holding your boundaries with your husband! what bigH said :0)

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LaurelS9 Congratulations on

LaurelS9

Congratulations on being 24 days game free. If you don't mind answering a couple of questions about gaming on WOW. As a female gamer, did the relationships you have with other guild members keep you playing? I noticed that you now have a need for companionship. In the game, was this need filled by anybody or anything in particular? It just seems that everything you found again, is everything my wife has lost interest in.

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Hi, Das.  Thanks for

Hi, Das. Thanks for asking. I did not have any sexual relationships in WoW, and except for jumping on the beds with someone on one of the intercontinental boats and a few strip dances, no acting out. Since I was already in recovery for other addictions, I kept boundaries about that. No sexualizing with guildmates or others that I "met" in game.

The deepest my addiction went happened when I got in an online friendship with a 21-year-old guy who joined my guild. We chatted for hours on Skype while playing and became friends but it was all about the roles we were playing in the game. He was main tank and was teaching me raiding. He was extremely egocentric, probably the result of lifelong gaming, so although I felt like I got to know him, I'm sure he did not get to know me. We had a falling out over some miscommunication...and he left the guild...and my guild started to fall apart and since it was clear that the social context of the game was the biggest obstacle to quitting the game, I gave away my guild and quit playing my main character. Instead I began char-hopping and did mostly solo questing. Whenever a char of mine got into a good guild, I struggled to avoid that char because I did not want to get close to anyone in game. Severing ties to other gamers is important if you want to back out of the game.

In the last few weeks some of my social and sexual needs have begun to reemerge....but I'm not at a place where I could do anything to fill those parts of my life yet. I'm just noting that active addiction numbed me there.

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For me thats what helped me

For me thats what helped me to quit wow,seeing how some of the people i played with, who i thought were cool, got to be so egocentric,and petty. Especially when they level capped and started to play endgames.That was just one of the experiences that helped me take off my wow goggles for good.It started what i called the domino,or cascade effect in realizing the falsehoods of that virtual world,like a house of falling cards for me.Im just so glad i found this site and can read all of the posts on here as it reassures my decisions made to quit and start living in the real world again,and in some small way help others in return if i can.

"It's all in your mind...Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life.If you continue to believe as you have always believed,you will continue to act as you have always acted.If you continue to act as you have always acted,you will continue to get what you have always gotten.If you want different results in your life or your work,all you have to do is change your mind." Anonymous...

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I like that image.  I'm

I like that image. I'm "taking off my wow goggles for good!"

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Ty... hee, hee

Ty... hee, hee yeah,unfortunantly i needed a crowbar to finally take them off.

"It's all in your mind...Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life.If you continue to believe as you have always believed,you will continue to act as you have always acted.If you continue to act as you have always acted,you will continue to get what you have always gotten.If you want different results in your life or your work,all you have to do is change your mind." Anonymous...

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Katesha wrote: One of the
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One of the tools that spouses/parents can use to check the time played in Blizzard's World of Warcraft is a command /played.A Kathy

I have done this many times, but my husband's response is "I was AFK most of that time," i.e. he pretends he was only logged in, and maybe even admits to being involved in an "instance" or "raid," but claims he was not actively playing each of those minutes because he gets up from the keyboard to use the bathroom, do laundry, play with our son. etc. I know better because I have witnessed him playing for 12+ hours per day only leaving to go to work, use the bathroom or make food, doing nothing else. He will claim the days I see him doing this are an anomaly, and that he does not play as much when I am not home to catch him in the act. (Please.... I was not born yesterday. Does he really think I will believe he spends less time on WoW when no one is there to witness it?) How does one confirm how much time has been spent actively playing, chatting using a VOIP system, and so forth? I know there are programs such as manictime that will show idle vs. active use, but I am afraid to install this sort of thing on his computer because it is bound to add a new program to the menu, and maybe even add a desktop shortcut or other obvious sign of its presence. He already lashes out at me when I confront him about the time he spends on WoW, and I fear a more violent physical response if I "mess with" his computer. Any suggestions short of installing hidden cameras in the room?

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Hi, TashaFFP All this will

Hi, TashaFFP

All this will not help your gamer get to the point he wants to quit the game. More than likely, he will only want to game more. Just think it best to accept that he is gaming and move on with your life. Keep focusing on how it is affecting you and your child, not him.

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Dawn, I also am in the EXACT

Dawn,

I also am in the EXACT situation you are. I am so glad that my MIL found this place for me, Maybe I can reach some understanding, something to know why my husband would rather be here then spending time and making connections with our family. Its heartbreaking, and as I read your story my pain was the same as yours. I just feel so incomplete, so helpless.. so everything right now..

I also took up playing to spend time with my husband, however, now i can log on and he dont even know i exist on there.. its the GUILD and thats it.. oh and the few other women that he ALSO talks to till the wee morning hours...

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Dear Tasha, This statement

Dear Tasha,

This statement below is wrong on so many levels.

TashaFFP][quote=Katesha wrote:

How does one confirm how much time has been spent actively playing, chatting using a VOIP system, and so forth? I know there are programs such as manictime that will show idle vs. active use, but I am afraid to install this sort of thing on his computer because it is bound to add a new program to the menu, and maybe even add a desktop shortcut or other obvious sign of its presence. He already lashes out at me when I confront him about the time he spends on WoW, and I fear a more violent physical response if I "mess with" his computer. Any suggestions short of installing hidden cameras in the room?

Let me see if I can make a few points about why I think so:
- please trust your instincts - if you believe his gaming is out of control it surely is (maybe you need to some help with your self-confidence)
- proving to him his gaming is out of control will not help you or him, its just an I told you so...
- you cannot make him quit - this has to come from himself
- all you can do is look after yourself, your children, hope and pray that he will come around (but prepared for if he doesnt)

Please check on some of the posts on this site from other wives and family members who have learned how to cope with this. To reiterate - you cannot fix him, he must fix himself and so in this sense you must admit your powerlessness. That said there are a number of things you can do to protect yourself and minimize the pain and heartache.

I regret being so blunt - but when you see the same posts over and over again, it tends to make me go straight to the point.

I will say a prayer for you.

- dark

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Xandtar wrote: That's true,
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That's true, family-based secret questions are likely crackable by any parent. "That's right son, I know your first car, I bought it for you, heh." And once you're in, you could do great damage to your kid's avatar, for example by throwing away all the leet gear. But if you do this, be prepared for the same kind of explosion that happens when an alcoholic finds all his booze thrown out, even his secret stash... So be careful.

That gear can be restored by the owner of the account if he/she reports the issue to a game master within that year, so you would only be wasting your time and theirs, and causing aggrivation in the process. Though I'm no expert on getting kids to stop playing.

Now if you really wanted to cause some damage you'd transfer his main character, his pride and joy to another realm where he knows absolutely no-one, maybe even a french, russian or whatever kind of realm if you're from europe, that would certainly cut him off from his social contacts and increase the chances that he'll quit, at least more so than destroying his gear which he could get back with less effort than you put into destroying it.

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