8 weeks and struggling

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FreeSpirit
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8 weeks and struggling

Well, on Monday it will, it WILL be 8 weeks game free.

I am going through some stress and notice how I struggle at the moment. I struggle with acceptance of the addiction and of not going back to SL. I am about to start crying as I write.

I also decided to give up alcohol, since my parents are alkies and I don't really enjoy how I feel when drinking. I feel guilty even after one or two glasses of wine. And after having this major SL addiction I realize I have to be even more careful to not get lost on drinking as well :(

I could tell you a whole lot about my situation with hubby and kids at home but... I don't feel like going too personal atm. What I can tell you is that my son who is 6 yrs old is a bit hyperactive and there's constant conflicts in our house. I also have a 3 yr old girl and it's enough work even without one of them having the hyperactivity-thing. My boy was basically diagnosed and I feel so powerless over the situation and not being able to help him right now. Help our family. Plus, all the work with my own business.
SO... I work so hard on being positive yet I notice how I now have allowed all these things to bring me down and get my thinking into "I want to escape/game".

Had to let it out of my chest.

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Re: 8 weeks and struggling
"FreeSpirit " wrote:

Well, on Monday it will, it WILL be 8 weeks game free.

Congratulations on being almost 2 months game Free! Take things one day at a time and you will make it to next Monday and beyond.

"FreeSpirit " wrote:

I am going through some stress and notice how I struggle at the moment. I struggle with acceptance of the addiction and of not going back to SL. I am about to start crying as I write.

If you feel that crying will help, then you should do that, to help let out some of your stress.

"FreeSpirit " wrote:

SO... I work so hard on being positive yet I notice how I now have allowed all these things to bring me down and get my thinking into "I want to escape/game".

Although we should try to see positive aspects in life and not dwell too much on the negative, we cannot always be positive about everything all of the time. I, too, am under a lot of stress right now and find it difficult to stay positive all of the time. It is OK to admit to ourselves occasionally that everything is not yet going that great. However, we must also remind ourselves that escaping by gaming, or through other means, will not solve our problems but, if anything, will just make them worse.

"FreeSpirit " wrote:

Had to let it out of my chest.

Now that you have it off of your chest, I hope that you are feeling at least a little bit better.

- John O.

[em]Carpe Diem![/em] (Seize the Day!)

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Re: 8 weeks and struggling

Naaaaaw not better... and I'm stuck in chatroom, but at least it's recovery...... but THANKS!!!!!!!!!! I'm hanging in.

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Chatroom is okay, you are right, at least it is not gaming! Did you mention that you had ventrilo? or at least the headset and mike? We could set up a vent chat/meeting for European time which could be around 2pm EST USA time, and maybe 8 or 9 pm your time,if you think that would be good? I am hesitant about setting anything up permenantly right now as I am still waiting to know my hours as i am going to be working from home in a couple of weels, so I am under some pressure as has John O stated he is as well. Oh, and BTW GRATS on Almost 8 weeks.... 50-60 days is an exciting time... Enjoy!!

"There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative." --W. Clement Stone

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Congratulations!A I remember the days when my oldest was tearing up the house.A When he was 6 (and for many years before and after) we couldn't leave him alone for a moment.A It was exhausting!A He is now 24, has graduated from college, and is just an amazing young man.A He is in a management training program in a large factory complex.A His brain NEVER stops working, but he is SO interesting to be around.A And, in spite of the fact that he was a scatterbrain as a boy, he is the most organized and responsible kid i have now.A One thing we did was to attend a 1-2-3 Magic seminar when he was 5 and began following the program.A You can purchase it on DVD now too.A It REALLY calmed the chaos in our house.A Check it out.A http://www.parentmagic.com/ Another couple of fascinating books to read are The Myth of the ADD Child, by Thomas Armstrong, and Attention Deficit Disorder: a Different Perception, by Thom Hartman. Both will help you see your son in a much more positive light and help him find his strengths. Children with "ADD" are some of the most amazing people.

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John, thank you so much for offering the support of meetings. I think it is a great idea and I AM interested. Maybe we could set up a time and talk about it in the chatroom? I'm a bit afraid still of taking on even more responsibility but one can start small right? There are so many things I've tried to "control" in my life, and I realize that I'm some sort of perfectionist, and of course I've never been just good enough. Today after plenty of therapy I am at a much better place. Yet I have things to work on. My children for ex... just to get the energy to work on family... so... Gamersmom thank you very much for the webpage and name of books, I will look them up right away and see if I can order them from here. My son is so smart and everyone loves him, he's charmy and have so many qualities. The stress have been towards myself (and hubby) and not being able to help him. I think somewhere deep down we still don't want to accept that he has these difficulties, and I have felt so alone in the work of trying to help our son. My husband would never go look up books or seek help, it has always been on me :( BUT ... now, this is the one thing I need to focus on. Because it's tearing our family apart. Especially when kids are home weeks in a row from school, like during summer vacation. That was no fun :-X I think I have the energy to start working on things. I already have. As long as I keep staying away from SL. Love and hugs to you.

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Re: 8 weeks and struggling

Good stuff... welcome and All Good Things to you.

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