About addiction

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About addiction

After many years, I come back here to share with you an interesting site. It has helped me so I hope it can also help some of you who are looking for answers.

Most addictions take their roots in trauma and/or abuse in the past. Addictions of all kind are a way to cope with the bad feelings. If you want to grow and change, focus on healing your old childhood wounds, if you heal your past wounds, your addictions will cease to exist.

You can read more about it here, I hope this site can bring light and knowledge to some of you.

http://gettinbetter.com/addiction.html

http://gettinbetter.com/needlove.html

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Thanks for sharing

Thanks for sharing Going_forward. I don't have any truama and/or abuse in the past. Wonderful supportive family and all I could remember was the happy time of growing up in my childhood. Still, thanks for sharing.

It's good to have goals and dreams, but while you're waiting for things to change, waiting for promises to come to pass, don't be discontent with where you are. Learn to enjoy the season that you're in--Pastor Joel Osteen

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Going_forward:  If this has

Going_forward: If this has helped you, that's wonderful. I'm all for whatever helps someone.

Now on to my evaluation of whether this will work for me:

I read partway into the posts on the site. The information, about how to recover from your addiction so that it will "cease to exist", is fascinating. The person who is writing is named "Shari" who, according to the site, is passionately dedicated to my empowerment, expansion and success. Her qualification is an MA in "Counseling Psych." from an unnamed college or university. She is selling her services as a phone counselor.

Lots of what she says seems true, in some way. But this is not science. And it's not her experience of addiction. And she doesn't have any idea what the 12 steps are about. (she says a couple of things that indicate that she doesn't get it.)

Her plan is to help us feel our feelings, then we won't need to use. Simple. She starts with:

"When I first decided to write about addiction, I said to myself; how the hell can I produce an entire article, when a single paragraph is all that's needed?"

Getting out of the deep forest that I walked into takes more than a paragraph, I thought.

But, by golly, she does it! Here's her fabulous paragraph:
"All addiction is caused by suppression of feelings. If we could learn how to Feel our emotions rather than fear them, ALL addictions and recovery programs would literally cease to exist."

Hmmmmmmmmm. Yeah, the feelings I didn't want to feel were not good ones. If I had continued to feel them, I would have driven my car off a bridge.

I guess I just have to carefully read her paragraph and my problems will be over. Or maybe I have to buy a year's worth of phone counseling.

Don't get me wrong--healing past wounds helps. Getting my meds helped. Getting therapy helps. But my addiction is stronger than those, as far as I can tell. Oh, and what is it that has helped me heal those past wounds? My 12-step work with my sponsor and going to meetings. Hehehe. It's early days. We'll see. More will be revealed.

I am a recovering computer game and gambling addict. My recovery birthday: On May 6, 2012 I quit games and began working a program of recovery through OLGA No computer games or slot games for me since December 12, 2012. No solitaire games with real cards since June 2013.

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