A Different View

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LTJ2727
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A Different View

Well, this is my second post and im a little calmer now. I have tried a few of the suggestions on this site and they seem to be working. But,.....I still cant do everything . BREAK MY CDS?!?!?! i couldnt do that even if i wanted 2. but im not looking 4 a complete way out from my gaming addiction...My friend vinny plays the exact game. but not the exact way. he can pull himself away from it. i cant. i dont no how he can do it. he just gets off. ive tried this but i still dont leave the computer. i understand i have to stop but dont want to. All i want is to be like vinny(in the gaming sense) and cut back. play as much as him. Because he seems to have a life outside while i dont.

I just want to breathe the outside air along with the inside. and have a double life. Idk im rambling. 2day my friend told me that this is my battle and i should fight it myself(because he knows he cant help me and he is in a tough situation right now). I can imagine my life without wow but i no i might end up being hooked on something else. (i used 2 smoke) i feel this is the same as when i smoked about 1/2 a pack a day for 1 year. then quit when i met a friend. So i no i might just have an addiction to addictions or if its just in my head. and its not just gaming but life in general. I wish i could ellaborate on this more but i dont have anything else 2 say...

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SKUZ
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Re: A Different View

My friend vinny plays the exact game. but not the exact way. he can pull himself away from it. i cant. i dont no how he can do it. he just gets off.

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hi friend, do you play the game the same times as vinny? what if you got off when he did if you think you cant go cold turkey. i think its best to stop all together but maybe you can try that?

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Re: A Different View

Hi, from reading your post I see you are dealing with conflicting feelings.A You want to quit, you don't want to quit.A You want to have an outside life, but you don't want to do what's necessary to have that outside life.A You know you're an addict, but at the same time you think you have control over your gaming habit. The sad fact of the matter is, your friend Vinnie is... Vinnie.A And you are you.A Maybe he has "control" over his gaming (and maybe it only looks that way from the outside).A But that's him, and not you.A Truth is, whether Vinnie can game and stop, you - and many, many other people - cannot game and stop.A Just because Vinnie can do it, doesn't mean you can do it.A I think one of the first and most important questions to ask yourself is, why do you want to moderate your play?A What are you missing?A What do you see in the future for yourself if you continue in your current way?A What would a great future look like for you, and how is gaming either helping you get there, or keeping you from getting there?A How is gaming affecting your relationships right now?A With family, friends, employer, school?A Is it contributing anything?A Is it acting as a negative factor?A Try to be as honest with yourself as you possibly can.A Think about whether your life is really manageable with your current level of gaming.A Don't focus on how great things would be if you could only be like Vinnie, think about yourself and whether you've attempted to control your play in the past, and what's happened with those attempts.A And, ditch the negative talk about how, well, if I quit WoW, I'll just get addicted to something worse.A Take things one step at a time and don't set yourself up by thinking that any attempt to quit is just going to fail spectacularly and you'll wind up in the street. Last but certainly not least, keep coming back.A There are so many people here to help you, and so much good advice, but it will only work for you if you make use of it.A Good luck! Jane in CT

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Re: A Different View

Hey my friend, welcome to OLGA. I just got back from class and am off to work until late, but wanted to post quick reply to let you know that you're in my thoughts. I read your posts and I'm thinking of a thoughtful response, which I will post later. Matt

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