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I am very depressed
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Please hang in there there

Please hang in there there is help for depression. All you have to do is go to your doctor and they can prescribe you something that will help. In addition he can point you in the right direction to get some kind of therapy or counseling. My ex is also severly depressed and is addicted to WOW. The game has made his depression worse. he has always had issues with depression but never this severe until he started the game. There is a light at the end of the tunnel you just need to reach out to someone. Can a family memeber help you? A parent or something...Not sure how old you are but if you are in school they can also help you. Talk to someone...

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I do believe gaming

I do believe gaming addiction can do a number on your self-esteem and make depression worse. The fact that gaming is ruining your life, yet you canaEU(tm)t seem to stop, makes people feel weak and ashamed. You feel out of control of your own actions, and therefore, your own life. I would recommend that you try to get into some addiction counseling and tell your doctor about your depression. There are many treatment options other than just medication that may help you feel better. I know it hard to talk to a medical professional because you may feel ashamed, but you have nothing to be ashamed of! Things will not get better on there own. If you could fix this by yourself, you would have. You would not be suffering right now if you had another choice. Also, please read some of the stories and information here on this website. It will make you feel less alone. Many people battle with gaming that is out of control and are working to get their lives back on track. You have friends here who understand how you feel. Please keep coming back for support! :)

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solar333...welcome...your

solar333...welcome...your starting recovery, congrats. This too shall pass... "If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them." This is a day at a time program, thats all you have to worry about..and all you have is today. Some people, as I, take an hour at a time...even a minute. Be good to yourself today, give yourself a chance and all your dreams will come true if you work for them. The day one admits defeat, a huge weight is lifted...that is a gift and embrace it, not many recieve it. Today is your responsibilty day...get a sponsor, it is recommened to do 90 meetings/ in 90 days and work the Steps with others. People some times put "Depression" in the first step if you have to...as well as "gaming"...and then work it from there. "I have no idea what to do because I can not imagine an end to my depression." -your already doing something...congrats!

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Solar, in that game* you had

Solar, in that game* you had an avatar. It was a representation of you. That avatar can do things you can't, but it doesn't exist without you. It's not a character. YOU are the character because you HAVE character. Your realm is your LIFE. As hard as you (and many of us have) have worked for game items or whatever, REAL accomplishments, via the ACTUAL struggle pay off INFINITELY more. You can draw from them. I've never said," Since I killed that raid boss, I can be better for my family and friends,". You're stronger than you think. :) *the word GAME, implies FUN. If it's not fun, can you call it that?

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u are not alone friend u

u are not alone friend u have support and wisdom here. pls i know how hard it gets u can do this and come out the other side all the better. dont give up. :grouphug: (((recovery))) dawn

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I know how you feel, when

I know how you feel, when ever I loose control it just makes me feel even more worthless. Just try and concentrate on achieving goals in real life to build up your self esteme. I know I turn to games when I'm depressed necause for some reason when your in game nothing else matters and for 5minutes/hours/days you can forget about RL .

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I watched a show on the

I watched a show on the brain. One section was on fear. They talked to a prior Navy SEAL. He said what got him thought training, was when he got up, he said ,"I can make it to lunch". At lunch, "I can make it to dinner". Rinse. Repeat. It gives you small goals that you can feel good about. As addicts, we need fixes. Setting those small HEALTHY goals will help lots. :)

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i agree with what u posted

i agree with what u posted tank. i have recently learned the very important lesson of small HEALTHY goals and not perfection but practice. some days its an hour at a time but those hours add up :)

Take the first step in faith. You donaEU(tm)t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
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Hello Solar, I have suffered

Hello Solar, I have suffered with depression for 6 years. I am 100% positive that my MMORPG addiction exacerbated the signs and symptoms of my depression. Through therapy and finally finding the right "cocktail" of medication, I am happy to share that I am more balanced than I have ever been in my life ~ and away from video games. There is help, but believe me, I know how challenging it can be to seek help when depressed. Can you share your story with a loved one in your real life who will help you seek the help you need and deserve? Love, Solei

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I'm glad you said something

I'm glad you said something about PRACTICE. I have a tough time thinking about practice as the goal instead of getting things perfect. As someone who plays and has performed music ... there's NO such thing as perfect! Now all I have to do, is get that formatted into my twisted little brain. :) [edit] doesn't it SUCK that there are things you KNOW, but keep trying to think they're not?

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The stages

The stages are: Denial: Example - "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me!" Anger: Example - "Why me? It's not fair!" "NO! NO! How can this happen!" Bargaining: Example - "I'll do anything, can't you stretch it out? A few more years." Depression: Example - "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "What's the point?" Acceptance: Example - "It's going to be OK."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it." KA1/4bler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one, divorce, drug addiction, or infertility. KA1/4bler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in the order noted above, nor are all steps experienced by all people, though she stated a person will always experience at least two. Ithinks its impotant to understand them and "work" with each issues witha sponsor to identify them and work through them, they are normal symptoms of early recovery...which also why slogons are important to also keep them in front of the mind...it will lesson the power and potency of them, depression will become sadness, anger will become being annoyed...etc...Its about changing the way one thinks, which changes the way one fells and in turn changes behaivors. In my early recovery I was told to but my shoes on a differnt way...change routines...most changes were unwelcomed.but i took suggetions...and still do, it is my thinking thats "upside down" which is why the slogon think think think is always upside down in a meeting room ....not to mention "This too shall pass", mong other that will fit for each individual...keep sharing, love to hear your progress everyday!

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Solar, Talk to your Mama..

Solar, Talk to your Mama.. One of the most difficult parts of my addiction I went through was confessing to my mama about the hold MMORPGS had on me. I distinctly remember sitting on my couch with her, and finally telling her about World of Warcraft. As my mama is in her early 60s, she truly needed the concept of an MMORPG to be explained to her. I noticed, that as I explained everything it detail to her, my description of the Warcraft subculture seemed so trite and almost petty. My talk with her about my addiction was a HUGE step in recovery for me. I'm 30 years old and one thing I'v e learned about parents is that, at least in my fortunate case, their love is unconditional. Give it a try, talk to your mom. It appears that she's reaching out to you... lean on her for support. Best wishes, Love, Solei

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solar, I agree. Talk to your

solar, I agree. Talk to your Mom. It sounds like she is trying to reach out to you.

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Solar, I can almost

Solar, I can almost guarantee that it will NOT break your mom's heart if you confide in her. Your mother KNOWS that something is wrong, and she is frantically wondering what it could be. If she is like most moms, she has no idea that a game could be involved. When my son was flunking out of college, I was at my wit's end wondering what was wrong. It was so obvious that there was something terribly wrong, but he kept telling us that there was nothing. I was so incredibly relieved when I learned about MMORPG addiction, because I had been imagining much worse things than that. The day I found OLGA and it all began to make sense was one of the best days of my life. It may take a little while for your mom to understand, but she can be a huge help to you once she does. The only thing we moms want is for our children to be happy and healthy. When something is wrong, we want to help. If you were to give her a big hug and say "Mom, I need your help." that's all it would take to get things started. Bring your mom here, and tell her to feel free to PM me anytime. Hugs to you.

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Solar, another mom chiming

Solar, another mom chiming in here, please, PLEASE confide in your mom. Guess what? She already knows something is wrong. This will NOT be a news flash to her. She isn't feeling better or happier with your not confiding in her, she's almost certainly feeling anxious, sad and very worried about you. You would be doing her a tremendous favor and a help to tell her the truth and let her help you. If you want to hurt her, keeping the truth away from her and letting her wonder and guess is the way to do it. I know it's hard to swallow your pride and admit you need help. Everyone has trouble with that! But the people in your family are the ones in the world who love you beyond measure, who would do anything for you and can't stand to see you suffering. You may have to educate your mom a little bit, or she can come here or PM with one of us moms, and we will be very glad to help.out with that. But you have to take that fist step, just to sit down with her in a quiet place and tell her what's on your heart. She will want to listen and hear you, and that's a hugely majro first step. Please keep us updated and we will be here for you, too. Jane in CT

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Dear Solar, I am the Mom of

Dear Solar, I am the Mom of an addicted WoW player. I also knew there was something wrong with him but was completely ignorant about gaming addictions. When I discovered this was my son's problem all I wanted to do was fix it. That's what Moms want to do for their children. Unfortunately I wasn't able to help my son and I am still waiting for him to sit me down and say,"Mom, I have a problem!" That would be the best day of my life! Please, Please talk to your Mom. She loves you and only will want to help you. God Bless You!

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solar im a mom and an

solar im a mom and an addict go to ur mom. in ur heart u know this. u need her and she needs u to talk to her. u are a part of her. let her be there for u. :grouphug:

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Not necessarily. That's just

Not necessarily. That's just something your therapist would consider if and when a discussion of medications would be called for. Not all treatments for depression involve drugs, after all.

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Our daughter was depressed.

Our daughter was depressed. She talked to us about it and we sought help immediately. Once we found the right medication, you might need to try a couple, her life changed almost overnight. It was amazing. She's so happy now and achieving. It's possible your mother might know of other people in your family who have also suffered from depression. If you find out what meds they took, it's quite possible the same meds will work for you. The docs might take a blood sample if they suspect your thyroid isn't working properly. When I told my daughter that I too was depressed at her age, she felt so much better. Talk to your mom.

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i was actually depressed for

i was actually depressed for quite some time myself, partially as a result of all my videogames playing. trust me, it really helps to just talk to people and tell the truth. you aren't alone in this, especially with your mother there to help you. also, do you have any real-life friends who you can talk to? they're often willing to help and give advice (though it may not always be the best advice) plus, at least your parents haven't gotten so disgusted with you that they're kicking you out of your own home in six weeks.

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How are you doing?

How are you doing?

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Solar: As the mother of two

Solar: As the mother of two gamers who are at the beginnings of addiction, I am very proud that you told your mother about your gaming problem. I also thought it might be helpful to mention that I have suffered most of my life with depression. I don't recall any needles involved. Sometimes they like to rule out other health problems like anemia or thyroid imbalance or something if you have other symptoms, but for the most part, if you say you're depressed, they believe you. You should tell your mom you are feeling blue and would like to see a counselor. Your counselor can recommend medication if they feel you need it. I have taken the herb St. John's Wort with good results, but I also took Paxil when my father was dying of cancer and I just couldn't manage to shake the desperate feelings I was having. There is no shame in admitting you can not manage on your own. If your life is unmanageable, you need to ask for help to get it manageable again. It's better than feeling helpless and hopeless, because with help there is hope. K??? So spill the beans to your mom and ask her to help you. That's her job. Good luck, honey and don't feel like you have to do it alone because you absolutely don't. :grouphug:

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