LEAVING SECOND LIFE

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LEAVING SECOND LIFE

HI,

II'm new here. SL started as a place to help with film making and descended into a sexual escape from real life. I have told my wife about SL and have been struggling to leave, canceling and re-instating accounts like I change socks. I am a Jesus believing christian and have been so convicted in positive ways to leave. I didn't realize it would become a battle like this. Even destroying my avatars was a struggle. Everything is to easy there, It's such a shame because there is so much good about sl and learning other things building, scripting...etc.But I cant go there without being drawn away to the sensual side of it.

I hate what I've done with SL. It's no ones fault but my own and I willingly pursued sexual encounters and even did my best to seduce women I was attracted to. It's something that was pent up in me before I was even married. I didn't have a a very successful dating life when I was single, so I feel as though I finely had this opportunity to go "sow my oats" when I realized sex was available in the "game". It has been a war all along. It's like I fall under this ether when I'm there and when I meet a girl, the challenge to get her in bed is more than I can resist... I HATE IT!

I hate what I've turned this into, I hate what it does to me inside, I hate walking around with this secret life, that at first was intriguing in a tempting "just try the apple" kind if way. When I bit the fruit, I knew I was in trouble but I've kept making excuses to go back. As I said earlier, I cancelled my accounts once again. It's TO EASY to go back... The first time I "left", I created a nooby account so no women would be attracted to me and I could go about my business visiting sims for film locations. But then I started feeling inadequate because I didn't look good! It's ridicules!

I have a great marriage with an awesome woman. I just need help leaving SL... I need the grace of God, I need his healing... I need his presence. Please pray for me... Thanks for reading this.

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Welcome to OLGA and congrats

Welcome to OLGA and congrats on recognizing you have a problem! You have taken the first step towards recovery!

Please pick one of the meetings or join mine on Monday evenings:

http://olganon.org/?q=node/45364

Andrew Doan MD PhD

My Videos: Internet gaming disorder is real & my story 

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy or Department of Defense.

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Hi leavingsl and welcome to

Hi leavingsl and welcome to Olga. I'm so glad you found us. It is truly hard to leave our game...it took me a year to leave after I realized I was addicted. And God had to step in and help me. The very next day I found Olga and the community here has been a great help to me to stay off the games. Posting in the forums how you are doing, supporting others by posting encouragement on their posts, and going to meetings all helps. It's hard to quit and even harder to stay quit, but you can do it, as many of us have. Best of luck to you.

 

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. ~Maria Robinson

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Thanks so much fot the

Thanks so much fot the reply! I know with God's help I can do the same.

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I encourage you to join our

I encourage you to join our online meetings and seek face-to-face meetings. As you are a Christian, consider Celebrate Recovery meetings near you. The combination of online and face-to-face meetings will help with your recovery.

Andrew Doan MD PhD

My Videos: Internet gaming disorder is real & my story 

*The views expressed are of the author's and do not necessarily reflect the official policy of the U.S. Navy or Department of Defense.

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Dear Leaving, If I can do it

Dear Leaving,

If I can do it (5 years ago) anyone can! I understand what you are going through bro.

Please check out the video in my sig. I put in there all I learned however imperfectly.

What worked for me finally is I got on my knees and prayed that God would look after those 'friends' I left behind in SL. This relieved me of the responsibility and finally stilled those voices in my head calling me back into the game.

That is the moment my own recover began, January 2009.

Olga/non member since Dec. 2008 Check out my latest video on Gaming Addiction and public awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-6JZLnQ29o

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