What do you think? I really want your opinion

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andrewskiK
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What do you think? I really want your opinion

I dont think that I have a problem with gaming(DAOC) but I would like some outside opinions.

I usually play between 4-6 hours a day. Sounds like a lot I know. I have a job that I like and I don't really find myself calling in or being late because of DAOC. I play whenever I have free time or nothing else to do. Whenever people come over I very quickly wrap up what I'm doing and get off-line and go enjoy people's company.
The only real problem I see is that I stay up very very late playing. Which also means that I usually sleep pretty late. I really enjoy gamming but don't want it to interfere with my real life. My job starts in the late afternoon and gets done somewhat late at night, so the hours I keep really dont mess anything up to bad.
I am a christian and I kinda feel like this game is being placed before God and I think that's what worries me the most.
Ocasionally I'll get mad and throw a book or something because of the game, and later laugh at myself for being so stupid.
I've been playing mmorpg's for about a year and a half now on and off.
Last time I quit playing it was easy, but I've been thinking about quitting again and it kinda scares me. What am I going to do with all of that time?
I've read some of the stories on here, and I do not want that to be me. For those of you that did post your stories THANK YOU!! I may or may not have a problem, but you all have opened me to that possibility where before I came here I never really thought about it.
Please can I get some responses? It would be very much appreciated.

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Re: What do you think? I really want your opinion

Here's what I think. You said:
I usually play between 4-6 hours a day. Sounds like a lot I know.

You also said:

I play whenever I have free time or nothing else to do.

That sounds like a LOT of "nothing else to do." If you really think objectively about what you could do with that time -- 28 to 42 hours per week, which btw is ~1450 to ~2180 hours per year -- don't you think that you could do better?

We all benefit from some "down" time, and our minds benefit from some mindlessness, I agree. Computer games are an OK way to get in some down time. What I found, and what I still find, however, is that for too many what starts out as a reasonable mental recreation turns into something that hardly resembles this. 2 hours per day becomes 4... becomes 6 ... becomes all day on Saturday and Sunday... etc etc.

Only you can decide whether 4-6 hours per day is reasonable. Only you can know if you started out playing less, but due to the desire to "accomplish" more in the game or some other rationalization you started playing more. Only you can know whether you are staying up too late because you are starting to play compulsively (against your better judgment, which you have stopped listening to).

Many find it hard to be objective when doing some self-analysis. I applaud you for even thinking about it.

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Re: What do you think? I really want your opinion

Hello, Andrew.
Do you play too much?

That is for you to decide.

If you are questioning it at all, I would say, somewhere inside you, you are having a conflict with your gaming.

One thing we suggest, is to balance your life, so one thing is not taking up a lot more time than anything else.

You say you do not want the gaming to interfere with your life. It sounds to me like it is, because you are getting to bed later, than you would like, because of the gaming. You have to be honest with yourself, as you look at this, to make sure you are not justifying your actions, so you can continue to play.

You say you play when you have nothing else to do. We suggest making a list of 50 things you want to do in your life time, and than prioritize them, starting with the funnest things first. Than look at that list, and say, you have nothing else to do. Gamers will say that, rather than say, it is easier for me to sit and play this game, rather than doing other things in my life, that I want to do.

Quote:I am a christian and I kinda feel like this game is being placed before God and I think that's what worries me the most. You are seeing what is going on in your life, and it is only you, who can make the changes. You may want to talk to your minister or priest, and ask about volunteering, so you will be able to replace the gaming with more fulfilling things in your life, that will benefit mankind.

Coming here, and sharing is a good start.

There are many others out there who can use the support we offer each other here. Feel free to keep coming here and sharing, and if you would like to become a member, please e-mail me at olga@olganon.org

Best wishes to you.

Liz

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Re: What do you think? I really want your opinion

Realising and admitting that you might have a problem is the first step on the road to solving it. While the actual legwork is up to you, the other members of this board are here to offer encouragement and support in your efforts.

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Re: What do you think? I really want your opinion

It is certainly possible that you do not have a problem with gaming, that it is under control.

For all those who play these many games without overt problems, these options of other things to do are just as useful and just as valid, as for those of us who have had adverse consequences.

In either case, I hope that as you diversify your activities (and it sounds like you do), you will achieve the best possible balance for YOU for games vs. nongames. Perhaps that means no games, as it does for many of us. Perhaps not.

Please have fun finding out! Good luck to you.

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