Hi, my name is Humberto and I've been a gamer since i can recall the first memories of my life. I think it was when I was 6 years old that my dad bought me an Intellevision and then my "hobbie" began. All my life I had been sorrounded by the likes of me, my best friends are also gamers, or at least were gamers when I met them, and in true honesty until now (I'm currently 32 years old) I believe that gaming has never impacted my life or others in a significant way.
When I was a kid my gaming hours were controlled by my parents, i usually got out of school , got home and started doing my homework, after that I had physical activities classes like Karate, Baseball, Swimming and such , and only after that i got a little time to play (mostly 1 or 2 hours per day and no more than that) . When I was in my teen years I believe things changed, I began playing more and more, and enjoyed less and less doing sports or physical activities, playing games was better, more enjoyable and it was something that I was actually good at, this didn't mean that i didn't spend time with my friends or family, or that i didn't get out of my house. I did that, is just that i rather be playing than doing those things. This carried out till now.
Two years ago I married my girlfriend of 5 years, both started living together since then, and we never had problems regarding my gaming hours. It is true that sometimes she got angry because of the time i spend playing videogames, but when that happened I stopped playing and spent more time with her, told her i was sorry and that I had it under control, I tried to talk to her and appease her usually until she was "happy" , and then it all happened again like a loop a few weeks later. Recently we had a rather sad and hurting talk, she said to me that she have had enough, and that she was tired. Told me how I was hurting her, it broke my heart and I promised her I was going to change and spend more time with her. The thing I want you guys to understand is that I don't consider myself the type of guy that plays a game 10 or 12 hours a day. I'm not like that, I like spending time with my friends, talking , i like my work, and the time i spend with my co workers. I admit that i play more than what is "ok" for a person, the problem is that spend more time playing videogames that sharing time with my wife and I know that is not right. The last 2 or 3 months my routine was waking up in the morning, go to work, then I got home from work around 6 pm and sat on my computer and played till 11 pm more or less making breaks to eat dinner with my wife but not more than that , this carried out for around 2 months. I feel is a little harsh to cut gaming all together from my life, I wish that i could still play videogames but not as a priority. I want to believe it can be done. There's been 3 days since I had that talk with my wife and i haven't play video games since, I know is not a lot... My problem is that I believe that showing her that i rather be with her than playing video games will get her to say eventually "go on love play a little bit I don't mind, i know you have changed" and then these things will happen again. I don't want to quit gaming i really don't. I just want it to be a pass time hobbie, nothing major. Do you guys think it can be done? Or I'm just being naive?
Sorry for my english but I'm not a English native speaker. Thank you for your understanding.