Gaming has ruined my life and if I don't stop soon it will destroy it.

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Gaming has ruined my life and if I don't stop soon it will destroy it.

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I am an adult male and I have a long term computer game addiction. I also suffer from severe depression and have suicidal thoughts. 

I can pinpoint the time computer games became a serious problem to about 7 years ago. Since then I have had a daughter who is now 5. I split up with my partner a few months ago and I have come to the realisation that my addiction to computer games contributed massively to the decline in my relationship.

I have been full time home parent for my daughter for her whole life and the loneliness and isolation of this situation caused me to play more and more games and spend more and more time playing. I will often play games late into the night and then be exhausted for the time with my daughter.

I had a bit of a wake up call recently where I have become so isolated from my friends that my ex partner of 15 years has started seeing one of my friends and all my friends lied to me about it. 

This has made me delete all the game apps from my phone and I've gone almost cold turkey for the last few nights.

As I become more aware of the severity of the problem, I realise the huge impact it has had on my life. 

I have had times of feeling very suicidal and depressed. I need to stop but I'm scared that I won't be able to cope. I need help.

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our son

It has ruined our son's life, too....trying to help him. He must come to the realization that the gaming has caused his depression, anxiety, isolation, withdrawal, social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc. We've tried everything to help his depression, but nothing has worked the last 5-6 years...probably b/c gaming is still excessive. We are praying for help. Good for YOU for recognizing that you need help!

 

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Hi Sam

Welcome !

Our members experiences show that depression is made worse or caused by gaming addiction. Get clean and you can recover. There is hope !

There is help available regarding harming yourself on this page

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Listening in to online voice meetings with other gaming addicts may help you.

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welcome

Welcome Sam.  Glad you found us here.  I can really relate to what you wrote at the end.  I suffered loneliness and despair and depression.  I wasn't entertaining thoughts of suicide, but those thoughts were looking more appealing as time went on.

It is very difficult to cope with not gaming for a while.  For me, the first month was very hard.  For some people, it takes less time or more time to start dealing with life better and feeling better.

The withdrawal pains pass with time.  We learn how to deal with life and feel better.  For me, just getting sleep I needed was a massive improvement.  Come to the meetings and get to know people.  Don't be afraid to ask questions.  You're worth it.

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Thank you for your support.

I have read and appreciate the comments you have made. 

To purplepuppy, thank you very much for your care and thoughtful comment. It must be a very difficult situation for you as parents to be in. You want the best for your son and watching him give away his time, energy, attention and real life connections must be very hard indeed. I am 44 and when I was 9 my parents bought me a very basic home computer, a spectrum 48k. At the time I played a lot but I engaged in other stuff much more. I believe the beginnings of my addiction started there. I don't have much to offer you in way of help and support but I hope that you can find some positive resolution and your son realised that other things in life are far more rewarding and engaging than computer games. 

To Polga, thank you for your insightful response. I will try to engage with some of your suggestions. I am despairing somewhat right now as the withdrawal symptoms are very powerful. I am exhausted and feeling very negative about my self and my life. I want to reach out but I am scared and fear that I will just  disengage and spiral deeper into depression. I will use the links and try to get involved. Thank you. 

To Ritchey. Your empathy and understanding are very helpful. I am experiencing withdrawals  but the thought of using a computer game right now makes me feel physically sick and very angry with myself. I hate them but they have a hold on me. I know I won't ever play games again. Getting to a point of recovery from here seems a very very long way away right now. There is a sense of huge loss with my situation which is becoming more apparent as I realise the severity of the consequences of my addiction. I am happy that you have found a way through this and away from the games. That is very good for you and It gives me hope that I too will come through. 

When I was a teenager I was addicted to slot machines for a few years. This is an expression of the same behaviour but in a different format. I beat it then and I will beat it now.

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Strength to you Sam. Sending

Strength to you Sam. Sending you good and positive wishes.

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The fight continues.

So I still haven't touched a game yet. The withdrawals are extremely difficult but the positives I am getting back are amazing. I've seen so much more of my friends. I am more involved in my daughters life and she has notivlced and really enjoys me playing more games with her and having a little more energy for her. 

I know I have a long way to go. A week is hardly any time at all. I have been very tempted on a few occasions. I almost talked myself into downloading an app for my phone to help me get to sleep one night. I managed to stop myself. 

 

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That's so encouraging ! you

That's so encouraging ! you are already reaping the benefits

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I am glad you notice your

I am glad you notice your daughters reaction, the reconnection with friends. :-)

For years I was living very lonely, but with gaming time just cruised away and years flew by, isolating me more. It is really wonderful to be able to reconnect and be present. People really notice that you are there, and present. It is great what you are doing now.

"I want to see people and I want to see life."

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Thank you Steele

I really understand what you are saying about the years cruising by. I have such regrets about this. There is nothing I can do about it though so I use the regret as motivation to never touch a game again in my life. I really am suffering though. Last night I couldn't sleep and my mind was racing like crazy. Nothing could fill the hole. I couldn't read, listen to the radio or music or anything. I fell asleep in the end but then had some very intense dreams. I don't know why but I seem to be having a lot of fear and anxiety.

I saw my ex yesterday and that almost broke me too. She is being very cold towards me. I only have myself to blame.

On a more positive note, yesterday I took a very important step. I have made myself an appointment with a councillor. I have to wait a couple of weeks but I feel it will be enourmously helpful.

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Still no gaming.

Still no gaming. I am doing really well. I keep almost rewarding myself for being so good with a little gaming session. The ways my mind tries to defeat me! 

The withdrawals are still extremely painful and the realisations of the losses I have caused are very hard to deal with. I have to keep moving forwards. The improvement in my attention, awareness and presence are the main things that are keeping me going. I will overcome this and I will make something special of my life.

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Thanks for sharing and

Thanks for sharing and welcome to the community!

Are you seeking help for your depression aswell? If not, i strongly recommend that you do that!

Keep posting, great that u keep us updated :)

Never alone, go to meetings <3 Mumble voice meetings on cgaa are great, see you there <3

 

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I can totally relate to

I can totally relate to strong withdrawal. I got increased anxiety because i had no way of "gaming away" my emotions. Also happy for your progress :)

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Doing well

So a month has passed now and I haven't gone back to the games. I still have a strong desire to play but in my mind I just cannot allow myself to use them. The disappointment would be to much. There is a massive hole in my life which can all too easily be filled by despair. That despair could consume me. The thing is, there are very easy ways to fill that hole with positive action and thought. Belief is the key. Focus on something that makes you happy and do things you get a good feeling from. Slowly the hole is filled and life once again becomes whole. I used to be a dj for 15 years. One effect games had on my life was that I disconnected from music. I am beginning to reconnect with music and feel the desire and excitement needed to get me back into being a dj. I used to work with vulnerable people. I am starting work in a residential center for vulnerable 16-21 year olds in September. Life is looking pretty good, I've just got to make it happen now.

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Congrats Sam !

Congrats Sam !

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Hi Sam,

Hi Sam,

 

Sounds like you've had a very similar experience as me (I'm 42). Good to hear your turning your situation around. Regarding depression Ive been finding excercise to be of great benefit with long walks and stretching in particular.

 

Keep up the good work,

 

Paul.

I don't have to be a slave to pixels anymore, I can get my fixes enjoying real life!

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Tonight is a landmark in my

Tonight is a landmark in my life. Tomorrow my daughter starts school. I have been full time parent for her since she was a baby. It was during this time that my addiction really took hold. Tonight I am not playing computer games and I haven't for almost two months now. I am proud of that. Unfortunately my daughter isn't staying at my house tonight though. She is with her mother. I broke up with her mother largely due to my neglect of our relationships because of my addiction to games. Tomorrow is a sad day and a happy day. I will be there when she starts school in the morning so that is one thing. I never imagined spending the night before my daughters first day of school in separate house to her but that is the destructive nature of addiction. I have accepted that these consequences are my own responsibility but that doesn't take away the pain. 

I need to keep strong and be positive if I am to salvage anything from my future. It is very hard to deal with the sadness and loss on top of the withdrawals. Combined I feel a great weight pushing me down into depression. I am mentally quite strong. I am trying to divert the chaotic, overpowering, manic energy I used to put into gaming into positive thoughts and actions. 

The last month has been transformational for me. I worked at a couple of music festivals with some friends. I reconnected with them and made lots of new friends. People have been so supportive and loving that it's hard not to like myself, even with all the negative feelings I have towards myself because of the situation I put myself in with the addiction. This has given me a massive boost. Even though I don't have anything going on with my life right now, I see the potential for the first time in years. It's like this month has been a reset and now I have to put my work and time into positive and gainful activity. What that will be who knows but the last time I was in this position I did some really great things.

Here's looking to an addiction free, self respecting, positively engaged, open hearted, productive, honest, exciting, fun, happy, resilient and self determined future that begins right this very second. Belief is the key and to really have belief in myself  I have had to be completely honest with myself. It is only now, after being honest with myself, that I have found the freedom of mind to accept that I am a good and worthy person. That belief allows me to use my time and my energy in a much more powerful way. 

Thank you to the people who have supported me in this site. Having the understanding of non judgemental people that have been through what I have been through burst the bubble of guilt and secrecy that I surrounded myself with. The fresh air that came in through that hole gave me the strength to face up to my problems and deal with them. I believed I was a bad person and the computer games were a place for me to hide. I now realise that the computer games were an addiction that fuelled my self loathing and reinforced my belief that I was not worthy. It was my behaviour that was wrong, not me. As soon as I got that separation I was able to deal with the addiction head on.

Thank you. This space has been immensely important for me to foster my self empowerment and freedom.

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Hi Sam

Hi Sam

This is great news about your recovery progress. Thank you for sharing and giving others hope. I am sorry to hear about your relationship problem and separation from your daughter. It's not what any parent wants to happen. It sounds like you are doing the best you can in a situationnot of your chosing. However because you are now 'present' for her your relationship will likely improve inspite of this setback. Stay strong. We are with you! Take care of yourself as you would your daughter. You deserve love and kindness.

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Thank you Polga. Very kind and

Thank you Polga. Very kind and wise words. 

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Sam,

Sam,

I feel for you.  Especially in this time of change in your relationship with your daughter, make sure to take good care of yourself!  You are an important part of your own support network.

Yeah, for the record, games and other compulsions/addictions are not self-nurturing.  Make sure you have some other go-to activities that you can do and rely on to feel better about yourself afterwards.  When you think you're going to blow a gasket and revert to gaming, you can do a healthier activity instead.  Something that you know tends to work fo ryou.  A lot of people respond well to something physical and outdoors.

For instance, I love to go to the library.  After a recent trip to the library, I bought a cheap wig which is a weird thing to do.  Doing a known-feel-better-after activity (library) when I hated life and wanted to die really worked for me that day.  Stepping out afterward and doing something else new and completely different on a whim felt fantastic in a way that I was still feeling good about 2 weeks later.  Whether I ever wear the wig or not really doesn't matter.  Anyway, it's a thought.  Also a hope that you can find activities that are self-nurturing that you can do instead of something self-destructive like gaming.

Best of luck.  Congrats on the game-free time!  No judgements if you relapse.  Just start making good decisions again.  I'm glad you're here.

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Hi cidcid.

Hi cidcid.

Thank you for your response. I love the story about the wig! It encapsulates so much about change and the recovery process.

I am making great progress but feel quite numb and depressed about my situation. I know this will change in time but it's hard. I have a lot to be going on with in my house. Things that I neglected to do when I was gaming and massive holes to fill where my ex used to be. One thing I'm putting off is sorting my bedroom. It's quite bare as most of the stuff in there was hers. I put some bookshelves up in there today and put all my books up. I put a beautiful throw up on the ceiling above my bed that an old girlfriend bought me in India about 20 years ago. My ex hated it but I love it. It's starting to feel like my space now. I need to push myself to finish the room quickly now as it will give me something to do that is really transformational. 

I do need to do more stuff outside the house too and I am working on that. I am lucky in that I have friends living next door and next door to them is my best friends of many years house. He has been a major support for me. He is one of the only people that know about my addiction amongst my friends and he has been really nonjudgmental about it all. 

I was a dj for many years but gaming took over that when my daughter was born. I just stopped taking gigs. I have a few coming up which I am really looking forward too. Music is my go to happy place. I have a party to play at next weekend. I might just go out and buy a wig for it!

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I hope your party gig goes great!  Wig - ha ha!

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Bad news.

Agter doing so well for so long I have had a bit of a blip. It is not a major one but I feel it is significant. I was feeling very low and the desire to game has been getting stronger again. I allowed myself to play online backgammon for several hours. This may not seem like much but my online addiction started with card and board games. I managed to convince myself that it was ok to play a few games as it was recreational and relaxing. I felt the addiction strong. The frustration, the desire to keep playing and the bad temper all returned in an instant.

in a way I think that there may be a positive. In allowing myself to play, Inhave experiences the feeling associated with the addiction again and have reminded myself why I definitely do not want to go down that road again. I don't think there is any lasting damage. I need to be strong and vigilant. 

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Sounds like it has been an

Sounds like it has been an eye opener for you. Strength to you Sam !

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Don't be dissapointed in

Don't be dissapointed in yourself  Sam. Relapse is  part of recovery. Realizing how easy to slip back into old habits has its own advantages. For as long as you are prepared to keep trying, you will be right. You stayed away from gaming for 2 months, that is huge! If you can continue to stay away, you didn't lose anything. It will make you more vigilent next time. Relapse in itself is part of the learning process. Stay strong.

"The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches." "The first step toward change is acceptance." "Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do." "Change is not something you do, it's something you allow."- Will Garcia

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Thank you for your encouraging responses. I appreciate your time and compassion. I  am in a mess right now. I guess this is all part of the process but I feel so low. It's my daughters 5th birthday today and she was with her mother this morning. I hardly slept last night and today was a very difficult day. I had a huge argument with my daughters mother. My daughter is at my house tonight and for the next few days but I hate my family being fragmented. I know my ex is never coming back, she has found a new love. I know it is going to take a long time to fix myself I just can't face the thought of the next few months right now. Where I was hopeful, I now only see conflict and pain. Where I was strong I am now filled with anxiety and fear. Where I had a positive plan I only see pipe dreams and delusion. Where I saw a potential for me finding happiness I only see impotence and detatchment. I know this shall pass but right now I can only be honest with myself about how I feel. Like a dirty junkie who wasted half my life and pushed the people who loved me to a place where they hate me, if they care about me at all. I wasted some of the best years of my life, squandered incredible opportunities and left myself with very little to survive with. Regret is futile. I have to formulate a plan because the one I had was a treasure map of an island buried at sea. I am adrift on a raft made of the broken dreams of my youth in a sea of despair so vast it spanned my entire adult life. Where is the land? I must find land before I drown.

I am sitting by my computer in the room where I wasted my life. The computer is on. I could so easily load up a game and spend the night playing. I could easily do the 7 hours before my daughter has to up for school, get her ready and take her to school, go to bed, get up, get her from school ad infinitum. I am such a clever man. I'm not bragging but I am. I have a very high IQ. I am also very practically minded. I will try and fix anything rather than throw it away. I am very creative too. I have it all, apart from the ability to make it all work for me. That's why games are so appealing, I don't have to make it work with games. I cannot bear the thought of wasting whatever I have left of my life on games though. I would rather die now. Seriously, without any hesitation, if it was a plain choice I would choose death. It isn't though. There are an almost infinite number of possibilities. How do I engage and make good choices? How do I find the land and settle? What do I have left? I have myself. 

Much as I hate myself right now, I do not underestimate my power. I realise I am lost and don't know how to use it but one thing I am certain of is it is still there. I picture myself walking into a museum and seeing figures behind glass cases. Manakins set in the positions of people of olden times. I walk around and I see myself, sat at my computer desk, frozen in time. That time is now, I am both of these people, the manakin is the physical self, paralysed by the inability to engage the mind. The mind stands and watches, unable to find a way back into the body. What is it that is needed to bridge the gap and reanimate the rigid body? Belief, hope and determination are what's needed. They are the tools that can shape this chaotic infinite energy that haemorrhages out of the schisms between my mind, body and soul. Belief is the sail, hope the rudder and determination the wind. 

Wish me luck on my journey, I have begun to realise the bigger picture. I will not feed the addiction. It will not win, I will. If change is something we allow to happen than I welcome it with open arms.

 

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Sending you good thoughts Sam

Sending you good thoughts Sam on your journey. It sounds like you are in a hard place right now. You are right. This will pass. If you can stay off the games I think things can only get better. I would encourage you to seek some support .. direct contact with other human beings you can share with.

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Thank you for sharing, and it

Thank you for sharing, and it is wonderufl that you are being open and honest with yourself.

 I would highly suggest coming to one of the online meetings and getting a sponsor. I've just started with this (only Step 1) and just started attending meetings, but there are others who have walked and are walking down the same road. You can't do this by yourself, but there is a community and fellowship of people who can help.

 

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Well I thought the first

Well I thought the first month or so would be the hardest. Today is unbearable hard. I just don't know what to do but I can't continue to feel like this. It's agonising and hopeless. I just feel so low and lost. It feels like there's no hope today. I'm so lonely it's killing me. Ouch

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It sounds really tough for

It sounds really tough for you at the moment. We are with you.

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I'm worried

Today I was in hospital with a problem with my back. I was attacked many years ago and hospitalised. I was incapacitated for around 3 months. I have been in chronic pain ever since but a couple of weeks ago I had to go to hospital with it. Today again I had to go to hospital in an ambulance and now I'm incapacitated again. I am in agony and on verybstrong painkillers. I'm stuck in bed for prolonged periods now. I just don't know how I'm going to resist playing games. I have my laptop, a radio and a few books. My daughter is with her mother so I am alone. I don't know where I'm going to get the strength from to get through this without gaming. Help!

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I love radio .. in UK we have

I love radio .. in UK we have bbc radio and it has a lot of interesing programs; it's your chance to get into radio 4

How about books ... they must have some books to read.

If you can get talking to fellow patients that would be evn better chance to connect ... you don't know where it might lead.

Often hospital have a chaplincy service ... a listening ear and also they help with other mundane things too. Check it out !

Once you get into NHS hospital it gives you the chance to connect to the other services it provides ... if you have a word with your doctor about your "mental health" problems (eg depression, addiction) there is an outside chance that you might be connected to addiction therapy or some other service that could help you ... or the chaplincy service may be able to help to refer you for counselling ... just a thought.

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I’ve been away because I relapsed

I’m feeling quite despairing. I got myself to such a positive place but I’ve relapsed. When I stopped playing games I was in such a bad place and stopping gave me my life back. My life was absolutely destroyed back then. It still is to a point but mentally and emotionally I’m in a better place. I got to a point of despair because I just didn’t know what to do with my time. To begin with I just started playing a little but games have completely taken over my life again. 

I feel like I am much more in touch with myself and have a positive outlook but I really neee to kick the games for good now.

last time I gave up I look at as a practice run. As I’ve gone back into the games I’ve understood the process of my addiction to a point but I’ve still been drawn in.

i need to find the strength to kick them once and for all and make the most of the opportunities life is offering me now.

I have a new found freedom which created a vacuum. I know I can fill that vacuum with games till my last breath. I don’t want tonand I want to defeat my addiction.

i need help.

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Welcome back Sam. It sounds

Welcome back Sam. It sounds like you have a much clearer picture about yourself and your addiction.

Through your relapse you are learning new things that will help your recovery this time. It sounds like you just need some support to help you start to move off in the right direction.

I have written a few suggestions below on where to find help. Of course you can keep coming back here for support too.

It won't hurt you to see your GP...just to talk about your problem with a real caring person may be a positive experience; they may be able to offer you some CBT or group sessions to take things further.

Counselling could also be another avenue for exploration. The GP may offer it ( but usually they use CBT)  If you have the funds you can chose your own counsellor. There may also be provision through a church or charity that may mean no fees or reduced fees; so you can try google for "free counselling"

Also check out what 12 step groups ( eg AA, NA, GA and many others) are in your area. it may help you to connect with others who struggle with addiction.

If you feel your mental health currently is an issue you could reach out to the charity MIND https://www.mind.org.uk/

They have a help info line

0300 123 3393
info@mind.org.uk
Text: 86463

There is a link to online meetings for gaming addicts in my signature that may help you.

Let us know how you get on. hugs xx

 

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welcome back

hi Sam, good to see you here again.

I had similar experiences, where I would stop gaming for a while, life would get better, and I would think, "I'm back in control!  No problem if I play a game or two."  But once I played, sooner or later I was bingeing again.

Eventually I realized that gaming by itself was not the problem.  It was a symptom of the real problems, and a way I tried to cope with them.  If I don't learn to deal with the real issues (like my attitudes, negativity, poor coping skills) and if all I do is decide to stop gaming, it will just be a matter of time before I'm driven back into it.

I got involved with other people in recovery from gaming by going to the voice meetings, listening, and sharing.  The support, encouragement, accountability, and guidance were invaluable in helping me stay on track and do the work of recovery.  For as long as I've stayed in touch with my new friends, I've been able to stay off games.  I hope you're able to accept the help available.  You're worth it.

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FFS READ THIS (ignore my noob english)

i read whole story and i am now gonna quit my gaming addiction. i came to know that gaming is really an addiction and suicidal thoughts are faced by everyone . what i did unique was i played only one game "critical ops" for 3 years everyday for about 8 hrs. i belong to a middle class family . my parents had expectations from me but i did bad in exams and got bad university that dont give placement. now it was my turn to study hard but instead of studying i again wasted my time on gaming . one day i thought really deep. and i came with a strong decision to stop gaming from now onwards and i uninstalled the game and discord as well. i was afk for about 2 days. :O but then my so called friend called me and asked for help in ranking up. all the deep thoughts came again but i broke my resolution and went back to game . then i did the same ; again gaming for about 8 hrs+ . then my exams came. i thought now the time has come to really stop my gaming addiction. i was not prepared for my exams . so the day came when i have to start preparing. again my friend called me to help him rank up. i said no this time. so he with other guys spammed me to come and help him. so i agaiin broke my resolution and went to gaming . and due to this i failed in my exams. jej . so now i was depressed. now in order to get rid of this depression my intelligent brain gave me an idea to play game. because everytime i played game i felt happy bt later onsad. so i again played game. days passed away. 2 months passed . i didnot stop gaming. next exam came. this time i was dead sure not to game. i was 100% sure this time a big NO to gaming. then my virtual friends called me and asked me to help them ranking up on their smurf accounts. i ....... did same again . jej . this time also my exams went bad and i failed once again. i asked teachers now what? i failed twice. they said give us fine of rs500 . i said ok and they passed me. (nice college) (nvm) . so after all this happened i analysed everything from start to end. and i came to kn ow who are enemies and what are the distractions. now i have clear vision. i scored highest marks in physics. my friends were like omfg how tf he did that!  I just said them one thing. when i played game i was pro in that. now i will use that same madness in studies and will fk all of u. they all were jealous and started creating a murder plan . they came to me and played games in front of me. now this time i knew what the whole world is. i didnot played any game . ffs i dont know why tf i m typing so much bt whatever i am feeling good! now today i played the game AGAIN. so i felt depressed so this time i went and asked google to help me getting rid of gaming addiction and it took me here. i read whole story of samyouwell and now i am going to try again. i found all the articles and suggestions helpfull and i am sure this time i am going to do good . bcoz there is a limiit of fkstuff. and i have come to this limit. 

 

cya books are waiting!

 

thanku samyouwell and all others (i am just lazy writing everyone's name) :p

sahil

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Welcome Depressed !

Welcome Depressed !

All the best with your studies !

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Must Be More Noise Made

I just read the thread that Samyouwell started, and the comments shared by sahil.  I am a parent of an addicted gamer.  This stuff is so heartbreaking.  We must figure out a way to stop this madness.  Each day that goes by, more and more people are hurt.   Yes, let's get help for those in need, but we need to stop others

before they get effected...

Ray A

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