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Hi, my name is David. I'm an active duty military member and happily married for 2 years, at least until my addiction became a real problem in our marriage. I have neglected my wife and even become a very different person because of gaming. I thought I could get it under control and somehow fit both into my life while keeping a decent balance, but I've come to realize that I can't control it as well as I though I could. I love my wife and I don't want to see something so childish and easily avoidable ruin my marriage. I have been hiding from the fact for a long time but now I've finally come to terms with the fact that, I'm addicted to video gaming. 

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Welcome to OLGA David.

Welcome to OLGA David.

I hope you find the info on this site will help you prepare for getting off games. You will be very welcome to share your journey and get encouragement on our accountability thread

 

 

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Welcome, David! 

Welcome, David! 

You've taken an important step. My marriage was badly affected by my gaming too. No matter what my husband and I were fighting about it always came back to my gaming. I have been clean since January 14 this year. My husband says I'm different and we are fighting less. I'm also noticing that I am slowly making other changes in myself. Taking more pride in my appearance, playing real games with my family, getting more done at work...

It's not an easy road. OLGA is a very good place to start. I also attend Celebrate Recovery meetings and have a couple of accountability partners. I've also made a couple of connections here through PM. 

You may start and stop a few times but keep getting up. You can do this.

game free since 1/14/2016

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Welcome David!  The best

Welcome David!  The best thing to do is make connections with other video game addicts in recovery.  I'm finding that together we can do what we cannot do alone.

I highly recommend listening in on a few voice meetings.  I have met some very friendly supportive folks.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/line-meetings-message-board/all-online-meetings-computervideo-gaming-addicts

See you around!

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Welcome David!

Welcome to Olganon David! I'm glad that you've realized that you have an addiction and you don't want to continue this anymore. This is the first step to recovery, which, unfortunately, many others never take. But I'm glad you've taken the step to realize the problem with games. Now, you want to decide whether you need to completely eliminate games from your life (which is hard to accept at first, but seems to be the case for all video game addicts). You are also seeing gaming as something very childish. This reflects many gamers' feelings as well, because we are often quite strict on ourselves. This creates extra pressure that we are trying to escape from, by playing games, which then makes us (at least some of us) feel guilty, creating the negative feedback loop of gaming and more gaming. 

You may have ups and downs when quitting gaming, but if you are optimistic, you will always come out of the first few months a better person. 

Hope this helps. :)

"The trouble--it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found." - Home

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Celebrate Recovery

My church has this every Wednesday, but I wasn't sure if it was an appropriate venue for me. I'll have to make sure to be in attendance this week.

The things I counted once for gain now I count for loss.

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