How to persuade someone that they're an addict

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How to persuade someone that they're an addict

A close friend's 18 year old son is having issues with his family and needed a place to stay. My wife and I wanted to help and volunteered our place. After speaking with his son, its clear to me that his behavioral problems are 100% a result of his addiction to video games. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to encourage him to seek help? Thank you! 

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It is hard to persuade

It is hard to persuade someone .. my own son is in denial of his problem for years. WHat I say does not mean anything to him. It may be worth a shot for you to have a very calm and meaningful word about your concerns in a caring way with him. Show him where he can find help.

If you are offering refuge think about how you are enabling him ... imagine if it was drugs he was using in your home ... would you tolerate that? You can set boundaries or he can leave if he won't tolerate them, Your house your rules. We have many stories on the Anon forums about people who are being enabled by third parties, so that their loved one ( eg son, husband) never has to face the consequences of their choices because all their needs are beling met in comfort of someone elses home.

If you stop enabling, he is likely to feel the consequences of his addiction so much sooner so you are doing him a favour although he will not like it. That is what we advise on the parents forum.

I think it might be helpful if you can show his parents the help for parents on this website.

 

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I think it goes something

I think it goes something like this...

1. He's allowed to feel the full consequences of his actions.  This won't happen unless everyone stops shielding and enabling him.

2. Overwhelming problems show him he needs to get his gaming under control and tries to do so.

3. He discovers that all his attempts at control end in failure.

4. Problems mount, leading to more bingeing, leading to more problems, leading to more bingeing.

5. Finally he becomes desperate enough to seek help.

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