I am begging for help - My entire life has been consumed by the computer

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I am begging for help - My entire life has been consumed by the computer

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Welcome Edfaad

Welcome Edfaad

Olganon differs from Reddit in that it is a supportive place for people who struggle with video game addiction who are looking for another way to live. We are here only for those people who struggle due to addiction or are empathetic to those who struggle. We moderate posts that fall short of our standards.

You are not alone.

Many of the psychiatric symptoms and social anxiety you describe can be due to excessive gaming. Recovery can be possible by starting with quitting the games and eventually the brain will recover but this is a long process. You have been abusing your brain for a long time so it will need time to recover. You  need to go deeper then just giving up gaming. You may need to work on your inner self.

My own son is a media/game addict and I have observed many of the problems you describe in him. He is a good looking person but he hates his appearance. He has very bad social anxiety. But he does not admit that his excessive media use and gaming have any affect on him. I can't help him. He is the only one who has the power to decide to change

Many of our members share similar stories to you and many have decided to quit and recover and they now actually enjoy their real life so much better now. So there is hope for you if you chose to take the path to recover.

I'm glad you found us. I hope you make some connections by attending online meetings with other addicts who are on the path to recovery. Spend time searching the forums also; there is plenty of experience and ideas on it.

All the best to you. Take  care

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welcome

Welcome Ed.  I second what Polga wrote.  You're in the right place.

I highly recommend the meetings.  Many good people are there, willing to share what worked for them.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/line-meetings-message-board/all-online-meetings-computervideo-gaming-addicts

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Hi edfaad, you are not alone

Here you are joining a community of ex-gamers and gaming addicts and I hope you find it helpful. Me personally, I dropped out of college several times because of League of Legends (it basically destroyed my life), but at the age of 24 I went back to college and I will soon be completing my degree in Computer Science.

Edfaad, there is hope. It sounds like your computer is your electronic drug. I don't know if you hide your addiction, but these were the first steps for me:

1) Publically admit to your loved ones that you are addicted to gaming. And that you need help. For example, I told my parents and my girlfriend, and I even gave my laptop to my girlfriend for months, sometimes. I do all of my gaming on my laptop, so if I gave my laptop away it would get harder for me to game.

2) Get rid of your games: Uninstall everything. Delete everything. Sell your accounts. Give away your password. Smash your computer to pieces. Give it away. Give it to your parents/friends until you can better exercise self-control. I will game for hours and hours, and then delete and uninstall everything. If you are into online gaming, message me, or someone you trust, with your World of Warcraft Account information, and I can lock you out of your account if you want. This is extremely helpful. Or sell your account. Do whatever it takes.

3) Get outside your room: You need to be around other people. Honestly, I find that I'm embarassed to game in public, because I know that deep down inside I'm wasting my time and ruining my life as a 27 year old.

Good luck, and God bless! Your English is just fine, it's great :)

P.S.- Regarding the red pill community,(disclaimer, my views do not necessarily represent views of olganon) it's time to get out. I BRIEFLY was part of that community and it is a cesspool of fear, paranoia, insecurity, and honestly, a hearty dose of sexism. If all of the guys on red pill spent 1% of the time they spend complaining and reading online on actually talking to real women, then would probably have already met someone nice in real life :) Go out and meet real people. Be confident in yourself, find what you love, and stop gaming. Quitting gaming and investing that time into relationships and skills will build confidence and happiness, which EVERYONE thinks is very attractive.

Best of luck!

brad

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