I think my gf is cheating on me and I cant take it

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Davadoo
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I think my gf is cheating on me and I cant take it

Hi my name is Dave and I don't know if I can hold on much longer.

I have been gaming for 20 + years and it is destroying my life. Me and my current gf have been dating almost 3 years now and I love her so much. For the last year I have been playing Destiny almost everyday. Recently I could tell she was becoming more annoyed at my playing and just wrote it off and figured she would get over it.

The other day my phone got a notification through fb and it was on my gf's account (she will occasionally be on my phone and forget to log out). The message was from an ex boyfriend that use to beat her asking if they were goin g to hangout. She was out with a "friend" at the time and started to speculate that it might not be who she said it was. I immediately started to feel sick to my stomach and proceeded to go berserk on the phone demanding she come home right that instant. She of course refused and I proceeded to hang up on me.

She came home 3 hrs later. By this time I had calmed down a little bit and I began to badger her with questions. She was denying everything and telling me that I was being paranoid. She was telling me I could leave and I didn't have to he with her anymore. I didn't know what to think (still don't).

It has been a couple days since then I have clung to her so hard that I think she might start hating me even more now. The last couple days with her have made me realize how big of an idiot I am. Like it took this for me to realize what I was doing. I don't know what to do. I know she cares about me and I still love her so much. I just don't know if I could take her trying to be with someone else. I mean how big of a piece of trash am I, that I would send her back to an ex that use to beat her.

I want to bring it up with her, but knowing who she is just going to deny it. Partly to shield me and partly because I think she still wants to be with me. The not knowing part is really tearing my insides up. I can't sleep, I can't eat. I just want us to be happy, but I don't know if it is too late for that.

I am in some need of some serious help right now and don't know if I could take losing her. I love her so much. I am sitting here bawling my eyes out because it hurts so much.

Please, anyone, I could really use a pick me up right about now.

- Dave

Davadoo
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The messed up thing about all

The messed up thing about all of this is she could really not be cheating on me. All though looking at her fb page she is throughly disgusted with me. I just don't know what to do. I really do love her so much it is just something that if I lost her because of a game I could end up doing something really stupid.

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Welcome Dave.  If your gaming

Welcome Dave.  If your gaming is out of control and wrecking your life, you've come to the right place.  Check out the meetings.  http://www.olganon.org/forum/line-meetings-message-board/all-online-meetings-computervideo-gaming-addicts

They've been a pick-me-up many times when I was in a bad headspace.  It really helps to talk to people, hear their voices, get some perspective.  See you around.

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Come here for help with your gaming problem !

Dear Davadoo,

 

Welcome to Olganon, a site where you will find help if (stress on "if") you decide you have a problem with gaming. From your own words, it seems that some things lead you to believe that you do. It also seems, once again from your own words, that gaming is a source of problem with your girl friend. So it might be worth focusing on this issue ? But it is up to you.

Unfortunately there is no way for any of us to know if your girlfriend is cheating or not. Nor do we have tips on how to stay with her while keeping gaming.

But the gaming might well be a source of many of your problems, and this might be your chance for a wake-up call !

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cheat

When i had the feeling my ex wife was cheating on me, i hoped it wasn't because i loved her so much and the signs were clear enough yet i was confident she was cheating on me..

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I`m very sorry to hear of

I`m very sorry to hear of your situation, glad you found us, but sorry for the reason you are here. I have never really been cheated on, so I can't really relate to this. I am deeply sorry for you, I can't even imagine what this must feel like for you. 

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