SecondLife Quit

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SecondLife Quit

Well, today I quit SL, I deleted the account (which was very hard to do) i removed all the profile, all the information tabs about me, reclaimed the lindens, shut down the account, changed the email address which will expire in 2 days.  I know this is going to be hard and I suspect I will have moments of relapse where I will need support.  I came here as I had seen someone post a similar thread 8 years ago.  Basically I want my life back, I hate myself for being controlled by the game, my life doesn't feel like my own, well it didn't until I just took some control back a few hours ago, I have also completely uninstalled the files and the completed deletion of my avatar will be done within 60 days.  I feel liberated and terrified all at the same time!

 

Thanks for any comments.

PoGo SL addict, getting clean!

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Hi geetPo

Hi geetPo

Welcome to OLGA ! There are many members who are quitters of second life here! Use the search box at the bottom of the page if you want to find there threads. I am glad you are here!

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Hi geetpo

Hi geetpo

glad that you have found us. We have went through what you are facing withdrawal symptoms be careful that these feelings could lead to another relapse. I recommend that you don’t stay alone in these days and would be very helpful if you visit someone or go for a holiday somewhere where you feel comfortable and think about your problem and at the same time try to come to the meetings, read and repost in our forums. How it worked for us to stay off gaming is by staying together. Knowledge is great but also connection could be life saving.

"Recovery is not about dealing with gaming. Recovery is about dealing with Life"

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Thanks for sharing, I can

Thanks for sharing, I can relate to the feeling of hating myself for gaming so much and wasting my life

But don't hate yourself! I realized I had a disease called "gaming addiction", and therefore i should not blame myself,, just try to recover

 

Never alone, go to meetings <3 Mumble voice meetings on cgaa are great, see you there <3

 

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Well, thanks for your quick

Well, thanks for your quick and positive responses, I find that hearing other people with similar addictions helps with the thought process, so when I thought to myself today 'oh crap, i just realised I deleted SL yesterday' and know that tonight I will be thinking about going on and not being able to will no doubt affect me.  So, I popped on here to see if anyone had replied and thankfully a few of you had, so that helped me to write this response.  Each time I think to myself 'SL later then, or I will pop on for an hour or so it will be OK' I then refuse myself the indulgance and find myself saying 'no you have given it up, never to return, the thoughts of wanting to be there will be strong initially but they will wane with time' this helps me, one day at a time.  It reminds me of giving up smoking 15 years ago now, so I remind myself 'Be strong, one day at a time'.  Good luck with those of you still trying to break the habit of your game addiction, distract yourself, do whatever it takes for you to forget your habit for that moment you yearn it and another day without will have passed, that means you have been successful for another day!

I have been using SL every day for sometimes as long as 8 hours a day, recently the last year or so 2-3 hours a day for nearly 10 years, so as you can imagine ... it's not an easy task .. with your help I will remain strong, and hopefully my strength will help you in turn.

Thanks again for your responses.

PoGo SL addict, getting clean!

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One minute

You don't have to be clean forever, just clean for the next day, or the next hour, or the next minute. Thinking of recovery in smaller timeframes helps you face up to it. Nobody can be clean forever; anybody can be clean for a minute! When you stack those minutes and hours and days up, though, you get a more satisfying, fulfilling life. We've all been there, so keep coming back and we'll help however we can.

Taking Steps toward recovery since November 2, 2012. The difficulty of the path makes it worth the walking.

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your coming back is helping

your coming back is helping me a lot. Thank you. Not allowing myself to think about gaming and distracting myself helps me to deal with urges, however living the life the way i used to will make me stressful all the time and will find myself having to deal with urges over and over which could break me in my weakest time so i found that i have to change my life in a way that pushes me further and further from gaming.

"Recovery is not about dealing with gaming. Recovery is about dealing with Life"

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Yes that's it, exactly.

Yes that's it, exactly.  Giving yourself other things to do ... at first you think 'but it's not the same' and 'I won't get the same 'fix' as I did from secondlife, or secondlie as I sometimes call it!' Yes, giving up is difficult, i am now three days clear, certainly two ... I have kept myself busy, tried to be a bit more social with my family when I needed distracting away from the computer.  I started back at the Gym yesterday, just to do some cardio and some active classes, I am well out of shape and a lot of that is down to SL and it's addictiveness.  The gym completely distracted me, the going, the process inside the gym and coming back home I was thinking about only those things.  Came home did some work in readiness for my Monday at work, and that helped me get past the weekend day, then the dreaded night time, but I am feeling quite chilled, not ready to panic and start thinking about un-deleting the account or re-installing the program, so that is good.  Will check out a few websites, read a few forums and wind down ready for a reasonably early night to bed.  Keep up giving up people one day at a time, thank you for your support.

PoGo SL addict, getting clean!

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