Want to Quit Online Games, but Still Play Offline

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Want to Quit Online Games, but Still Play Offline

Hello,

I find myself struggling hard with online gaming.  I enjoy it so much, but also hate it more than anything.  I will sit here for hours and just play, but it acts like a time machine.  I will sign in at noon and all of a sudden it is 6 PM and I did nothing.  I then have no motivation to do anything else.  

I want to read more, do more artistic things, and try to find hobbies that incorporate humor into them.  I actually have plenty of hobbies I want to work on.  I am writing a cartoon, want to brew beer, and draw more.  I also used to work out and play sports.  Now I just sit here.  It is miserable.  I just feel like I'm already good at playing the game and do it.  The only issue is I get so angry at my team.  Take Overwatch for example.  I can play for 10 hours and win 2 and lose 1 or win 1 and lose 2.  my skill rating changes by 50 points overall after 10 hours of play.  What is the point of that?

I feel like I waste every night and weekend.  I am single, lonely, depressed, and not challenged.  I am so creative and can do so much with my life and just choose not to do so.  I know I am depressed, but am seeing a therapist for this.

Is there a way to enjoy an offline game like Zelda for 1 hour instead of playing Overwatch, online NHL games, and Runescape?  I just go from one to another.

Do any experienced people have any methods of self control and discipline?

Thanks,

Matt

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welcome

Welcome, glad you'ere here.

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Do any experienced people have any methods of self control and discipline?

Yes, I have methods that work for me for other things, but they don't work with gaming.  When I game, I binge.  I've tried many ways of controlling it and found that none of them worked for me.

If you find the same is true for you, then the options are limited to abstinence or out of control gaming.  I recommend trying abstinence.  But not alone.  That's torture, or it was for me.  It's best to do it in the company of others doing the same.  Keep posting here and check out the meetings.

http://www.olganon.org/forum/line-meetings-message-board/all-online-meetings-computervideo-gaming-addicts

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I was playing offline games

I was playing offline games only. It had dynamic for me that I would binge and binge. I could not moderate (tried that many many times). In the beginning I was playing complex games, but they bored in the end. So I tried to replace with other games, but they bored. Finally at one point I was playing these really simple games, they were obviously boring. But I played these also endlessly. 

For me, I found that it was not so much about the particular game I was playing. I just wanted to be gaming, and for me it was out of control and I had to stop it.

Welcome Mike. Your hobbies sound great! Sports is really important now for me, because it makes me feel so much better.

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I tried playing offline games

I tried playing offline games before, and not online ones. But I ended up just as bad with them. I think if you are addicted to gaming in general its going to be hard to have control over any type of video gaming. I keep thinking to myself , i will play a game but only after  i get off work, which is late. But I know deep down, i have tried so many diffrent methods of game play control, and it never works. Makes me sad. I miss playing games. BUt I know thats all I will do if i give in. I'm now 19 days free of no gaming of any type. And its been so hard not giving in. 

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Gaming is a real digital drug

Gaming is a real digital drug and what make it more dangerous is that this info is not widely known yet. So when we are under drug affect or drunk, we will not be able to learn any thing about self control and discipline. we have to stop completely in order to get our lifes back however this need companionship and little knowledge about how to deal with this.

"Recovery is not about dealing with gaming. Recovery is about dealing with Life"

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Uninstalled my games.  I

Uninstalled my games.  I uninstalled all of the games I was playing for so long.  I came home last Friday and saw that it was only 6 PM and I had tons of time.  I decided to play Overwatch and marathon it.  What a waste of time!  I played for 7 hours and just got so frustrated with the people online, course of gameplay, and just the guilt of playing.

I have now gone 4 days without playing a game.  I spent the weekend coming up with activities to do with my two roommates and see some friends.  It was one of the most refreshing weekends I've experienced in quite some time.  My only issue is that I come home from work with anxiety because I don't really know what to work on.  I am trying to write my cartoon, but after a full day of work it can seem like more of a hassle than enjoyment.

How are all of you doing?  I appreciate the kind words of advice.

Matt

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I lasted two years not

I lasted two years not playing videogames, and yesterday I installed Heroes Of The Storm and I think I could get addicted again. Its 2:30 AM and played for the last two hours. I'm going to uninstall the crap tomorrow since Im feeling guilty right now, and I felt far better not playing videogames.

I was used to play Dota every day, at least two hours in workdays, and five to six hours in weekends.

I stopped playing because my notebook got a problem with the procesor, it overheated, and dota started to crash.

I had to pay for the repair, but I didnt want to spend my money to keep playing, so I decided not to play anymore.

The reason I played Dota, was mainly because I was good at it and I felt important, part of a team.

I switched first to playing classical guitar, I lasted about six months before I switched again to reading literature and philosophy. This last hobby has been a constant resource of pleasure and tranquility. Eventually I think I could write some thing in the future, who knows?

I started to ride my bycicle a lot too. I lost about 30 pounds. Nothing like going in bycicle to the country and read a book under a tree.

You should finish your comic, and if you don't like the results, you should keep trying. The difference with the videgames is that to master drawining and storytelling requires far more time of study and practice. If you want to be recognized, upload your work to the Internet.

Downgrading your pc would help a lot too.

Sorry for any grammar mistake, english is a second language to me.

I hope you quit videogaming once and forever. The key is to switch to another activity and be tenacious with it.

Good luck!

 

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welcome back Matt

welcome back Matt

today i have had cravings to play offline games and i am glad that i didn’t. I have a stable life now and got many things i enjoy which i am currently doing or would like to, however i still had those urges and i know that i will always have them. Those most thing that worked for me to stay game free is to connect with other fellows who have the same problem as me.

"Recovery is not about dealing with gaming. Recovery is about dealing with Life"

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Congrats on 4 days Matt! Keep

Congrats on 4 days Matt! Keep coming back!

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It is hard for me to make

It is hard for me to make meetings due to work.  I just appreciate hearing your stories and learning about how others deal with things.  Today I really struggled to not play games.  I came back from a conference and sat there for like 2 hours.  It was a beautiful day, but I just had no energy because of the conference.  I just wanted to play some sort of game, but I resisted.  I took a nap and called my friend up.  We went out for dinner and saw a movie. I think video games help me deal with anxiety, so finding a way around it is going to be tough.  I know meditation is a thing, but I need it to resonate with me and have meaning.

Maybe it just takes time to get over this feeling of a world where I can do anything and be anything I want.  I covet that feeling of being an important member of the team, but it is literally all in my head with games.  I have started to read, watch tv shows, and do more with my friends and family.  

I guess I just want to play offline games because I have never really played Zelda or anything.  It always seems like a great story that I would enjoy (I know there are several).  Reading has been huge, I know some of you mentioned reading to be a great way to take your mind off of it.  

I think it is just hard when you are tired, have nothing planned, and don't have the energy to continue with such a bearing task like the cartoon or making music.  I think I just need to force myself some time.

Thanks!

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Hi Matt,

Hi Matt,

It's good to hear your experience as I can relate a lot! Well done on four days; I'm just starting out myself and have had periods of sobriety around games, but wasn't doing it for myself, purely outside obligations. I remember quitting in the past for a few weeks and found myself in a very similar space to you. Over the first two weeks I just had to give time time, I found I had so much free time to be productive, but it took me a while to fill it with other positive things in life. 

Gaming definitely reduces my anxiety so I can switch off of what's going on around me in real life, although I never used to "face-up" to challenges and discomfort as I had to. Stay strong, and little by little things will fall into place without you even realising!!

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Matt,

Matt,

I think the response you'll hear from people here more than any other is, "Yes, I tried imposing reasonable restrictions on my gaming time/methods, but none of them worked." That was certainly true for me. I was a big MMO gamer for a long time, quit that, tried offline gaming, eventually quit that, too. It was exactly as you described: I felt I had so many other talents that were being squandered by all the time I spent gaming. Weekends would pass in the blink of an eye. Wake up, boot up, and blink, it's 4:00 a.m. Once upon I time I wore my "hours gamed" statistic on Steam as a badge of honor, but now all I can think of is what I missed in the literal months I surrendered to my addiction. What works of art did I miss out on? What meaningful connections with friends did I fail to make? Which great books, music, activities did I pass up? Although some people have reported that they're "managing" their addiction, I think you'll find nearly everyone on OLGA agrees that their lives are deeper, richer, and far more fulfilling outside the world of gaming than it was on the inside. Your mileage may vary, of course, but the only way to know is start taking steps.

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