Guidelines for raising healthy children and avoiding the heartbreak of gaming addiction

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Guidelines for raising healthy children and avoiding the heartbreak of gaming addiction

UPDATE: For a research review regarding the impact of technology on child development, behavior, and academic performance please click here

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We need to protect the developing brains of our children from the risks that excessive screen use can present.

These guidelines may have been posted elsewhere, if so they bear repeating.

Dr. Andrew Doan, Cris Rowan,  Hilarie Cash,  Liz, Cosette Rae, and several others have put together these recommendations based on their own experiences and the risks of digital media on developing brains. They also borrow from guidelines provided by the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Canadian Society of Pediatrics.
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4899218

1) No screen time for children 2 years old and younger

2) For children ages 3 to 12, only 1 hour daily of age appropriate videos or less

3) No computer gaming for any children until they reach the age of 13

4) Once children are 13 they should be permitted only age appropriate games, to a maximum of 30 minutes daily. Children under 18 should not be permitted any online (multi-player) games.

5) Children under 13 should not be permitted handheld devices and/or smartphones

6) Parents should immediately remove all games and/or internet access in the home if there are signs a child is addicted

As you probably know, Dr. Andrew Doan and others are engaged in public awareness campaign to help inform about the dangers of Digital Media on our future generation.

Please join with us to help spread the word.

Olga/non member since Dec. 2008 Check out my latest video on Gaming Addiction and public awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-6JZLnQ29o

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There is a great website for

There is a great website for parents who want information and tips about parenting children with less screen time

http://www.momsmanagingmedia.com/

Tips on what things to do with kids under 5 that do not involve screens:

http://www.olganon.org/forum/i-need-help-parents-gamers-open-forum/game-free-activities-kids-under-five

Parents own suggestions on how they cope with children's / teen's access to internet

http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/teens/screentime.html

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts advice here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

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Here is a video I have made

Here is a video I have made as an introduction to this topic. We need to raise public awareness.

http://youtu.be/zTZP8jbrn_8

Olga/non member since Dec. 2008 Check out my latest video on Gaming Addiction and public awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-6JZLnQ29o

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Polga, Agreed! Moms Managing

Polga,

Agreed! Moms Managing Media is an outstanding online resource for parents!!

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Tommi,

Excellent video! I like the idea of individuals sharing their story in a video. I think this can be very powerful in help raising awarenss and reducing addiction. I hope others will soon step forward to share.

Thank you so much!

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Polga wrote:There is a

 

Polga wrote:

There is a great website for parents who want information and tips about parenting children with less screen time

http://www.momsmanagingmedia.com/

Could this thread be made into a sticky for the "open" parent's forum?

Thank you for pointing out the website Polga!

This website together with the realbattleministries website http://realbattle.org/ offer a lot of resources and information for parents.

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My two favorite

My two favorite websites!

I'm currently reading The Big Disconnect by Catherine Steiner-Adair. Anyone read it?

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I had to add this one to

I had to add this one to this thread;

Steve Jobs (Apple) severely restricted his own children's access to ipads etc.

See http://www.olganon.org/forum/parentschildren-and-video-games/tech-execs-are-low-tech-parents

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts advice here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

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Thanks for the guidelines -

Thanks for the guidelines - I need to somehow make decisions for my daughters when my husband is an addict and in denial and also a father who thinks there is no problem handing over these devices and letting them play as many games as they like. When they are with me alone I remove all devices, but weekends, when he is around, are a nightmare.

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Thanks for the guidelines -

Thanks for the guidelines - I need to somehow make decisions for my daughters when my husband is an addict and in denial and also a father who thinks there is no problem handing over these devices and letting them play as many games as they like. When they are with me alone I remove all devices, but weekends, when he is around, are a nightmare.

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Oh gosh, I am so sorry to

Oh gosh, I am so sorry to hear this. Makes your job even tougher...

Just as you set boundaries for your daughters, you must also set boundaries with him.

I've been through ALANON because of alcohol and drug addicted family members, and I learned there that: you can only control yourself....and....that you need to learn when to walk away to protect yourself. You must administer tough love, in order to self-preserve.

Remember that addiction cannot exist without both the addict and the enabler. It's a yin and yang type of relationship. One CANNOT exist without the other. I like to think of it as a cancer; a cancer cell cannot exist without a host, right? Stop hosting. So, in order for the yin and yang to stop spinning, they are either going to stop gaming....or....you are going to stop enabling. Even if you don't think you're the enabler, you are. It's tough to accept, I know. But, if you stop enabling, they will either have to quit, or they will find another enabler. And, THAT, you cannot control. That's part of the "accepting the things you cannot change".

If you're really, really ready to put in some boundaries, you cannot participate, endorse or support any gaming activity at all. AT ALL. That means, cancelling the Game Stop account. Not allowing the kids to watch you tube videos about game reviews, and anything and everything related to gaming has to disappear. (The list is long, I know).

Alcoholics/Narcotics Anonymous members know they can never "just take one sip". They don't even rinse with Listerine because of the alcohol content. They NEVER take Nyquil or any kind of alcoholic cough syrup. When they get injured, they refuse prescribed painkillers and tough it out with only aspirin. And, their enablers never have these kinds of products in the household either. Doesn't seem fair, since they aren't the ones with the addiction, but addiction is a family disease. Yin and yang.

If you aren't familiar with The Big Book, I highly suggest reading it. Today. It will answer so many of your questions and help to "see" what has been there all along that we've chosen to turn a blind eye to.

Hugs hugs and more hugs.

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Prevention: Your Teen Needs You to be Their Digital Mentor

Your Teen Needs You to be Their Digital Mentor

see https://www.gottman.com/blog/teen-needs-digital-mentor/

"A dilemma for parents nowadays is how to be those good Emotion Coaches to our kids regarding their use of technology, which influence so many parts of their lives. And even though our teens are separating from us in many ways, it is essential that we continue to stay engaged with them in order for them to grow into the adults we want them to be. For families who have opened the door to smartphones and laptops, that engagement means getting involved with what they are doing online."

This article could be a useful resource for parenting teens to learn responsible screen mangement .

If your child is already a serious addict,  then this article is not the answer.

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts advice here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

Please help! Donate here

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Found this website raising

Found this website raising awareness about digital tech and kids

http://kidsfitnessfirst.org/

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts advice here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

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Survey Raises Worries About how Screen Time Affects Kids’ Brains

Nearly two out of three U.S. kids spend more than two hours a day looking at screens, a new analysis of activity levels finds. And those children perform worse on memory, language and thinking tests than kids who spend less time in front of a device, the study of over 4,500 8- to 11-year-olds shows.

The finding, published online September 26 in Lancet Child & Adolescent Health, bolsters concerns that heavy use of smartphones, tablets or televisions can hurt growing minds. But because the study captures a single snapshot in time, it’s still not known whether too much screen time can actually harm brain development, experts caution.

Researchers used data gleaned from child and parent surveys on daily screen time, exercise and sleep, collected as part of a larger effort called the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study. Cognitive abilities were also tested in that bigger study. As a benchmark for the new study, the researchers used expert guidelines set in 2016 that recommend no more than two hours of recreational screen time a day, an hour of exercise and between nine and 11 hours of nighttime sleep.

Overall, the results are concerning, says study coauthor Jeremy Walsh, an exercise physiologist who at the time of the study was at the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario Research Institute in Ottawa, Canada. Only 5 percent of the children met all three guidelines on screen time, exercise and sleep, the survey revealed. Twenty-nine percent of the children didn’t meet any of the guidelines, meaning that “they’re getting less than nine hours of sleep, they’re on their screens for longer than two hours and they’re not being physically active,” Walsh says. “This raises a flag.”

- Laura Sanders

READ THE ARTICLE HERE: 

https://www.sciencenews.org/article/survey-raises-worries-about-how-screen-time-affects-kids-brains

INFO

Parent's online meeting THURSDAY 9pmEST/EDT click here

Online meetings gaming addicts click here

Spouses/SO's of addicts advice here

Parents of addicts click here for advice

Help for video game addicts click here

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Children Screen Addiction Survey

I limit screen time for my kids.

The older one is 11, and he owns his PC. He was playing during the week, but since we've noticed bad results in school, we forbid any playing on the PC except for the weekend days. He is allowed 2–3 hours max on a PC per weekend day after he is done with homework and learning and after being outside with his friends for a couple of hours. Luckily he likes to go out. He owns his smartphone too. I limit the smartphone use through an app to 1h per weekday, 2 hours on a weekend's days.

The younger one is 6, and she likes to watch youtube videos, mostly some educational /entertaining ones in her mothers' language. So in a way, it's a good activity because she has learned the language. On the other hand, she is watching too much of it. I have to limit the screen time for her also.

For all of us to better understand where we are in our endeavors in limiting screen time for kids, I've conducted a mini anonymous survey. It should help us to see what we struggle the most, what we're trying to do, what works, and what doesn't.

Please take the survey if you will on the below link. I'll collect the results and post them here when I receive an applicable number of answers.

Children Screen Addiction Survey

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