moving back in

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moving back in

Our 21 year old moved out in feb. he moved out in reaction to our game free house. The past month he had asked about moving back and each time we told him the rules were the same but then as quickly as he would ask he would then change his mind. His car is on it's deathbed. He is working 2 part time minimum wage fast food jobs and has a room mate. Yesterday again he asked about moving back in august. He wants to buy a reliable decent car so I am pretty sure that is the only reason he wants to move back home. My belief is that every child of ours may come back anytime as long as they work full time or go to school full time or any full time combination of the two. but my husband has pointed out that in the case of our son we may only be helping him keep afloat to buy a car but he is not really learning to make it in life independently. Which I agree our house would seem to not being used to boost him up just keep him able to work minimum wage jobs and afford a car not really moving to independence. But then I think maybe him seeing an achievement of a car bought with his own money may give him confidence to get moving to college or at least a higher paying job with more of a future. My husband has suggested I look into family counseling which I will but I have valued responses here due to the experience with addicts. Our house will stay game free which will again bring up taking the router etc. out and locked up. He says he isnt gaming because he works from 11 AM to 11 PM or later 6 days a week. I want to help him but my husband thinks unless our son has a plan to move to independence (higher paying full time job or college or votech) that we could be hurting him by letting him move back in.

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