Welcome parents of video game addicts! Here is your first aid kit ! A guide for parents looking for solutions to their childrens gaming problems. "Children" includes adult children as well as minors.
To get the best results you need to read the information carefully and repeatedly to understand and to be able to remain STRONG while you deal with this baffling addiction.
On the internet you will see many suggestions from many different sources about how to relate to your kids if they have a gaming problem or you are concerned about their gaming use. Some of their suggestions around moderation may work for you. However, this website is aimed at the people who are experiencing problem significantly worse than 'normal' ( what ever that is !) The kids, young people and adults who cannot seem to willingly stop their gaming and it''s really affecting their lives in a big way.
You, the parent has tried and tried, but those suggestions around moderation are not working. This website is for you. We hope it will empower you through our shared experience, to take the necessary steps and say enough is enough. Something has to change.
This website may help you deal with the domain of video game addiction which is often assigned by self-help books, websites and 'gurus' to be dealt with by professional therapists because it is so problematic.
Therapy has it's place and can be helpful, but it has to be good therapy. Our experience is that all therapists do not recognise video gaming addiction as an addiction. They may make excuses for it that can trap us into paying for therapy that will never work. For example, they may want to try to treat the depression or anxiety rather than the gaming. Unless the gaming is also addressed as number one importance ( because it causes depression or makes it worse) they cannot be healed. So beware ! This website seeks to empower the parents by offering the experience of others who have gone before.
Olganon has been established and has supported the loved ones of video game addicts for many years . If Olganon has supported you, in time please post your success and failures on the forums so we can continue to pass on our recent experiences to the new generation of parents encountering this baffling situation for the first time.
If you take time to search the forums you may find wisdom that will help you. If you do not have so much time then use the following selected threads to understand what you can do to start you on your journey from chaos to peace and sanity.
You may need to sign up for membership to view some of of the highlighted threads below and then you can access the members only forums and also attend the typed chat meeting for parents ( IT'S FREE). Details about parents chat meeting click here
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READ THIS FIRST Welcome information for parents of minor Under 18's children with gaming problems:
READ THIS FIRST Welcome information for parents of Over 18's adult children with gaming problems:
What an addict would like to tell you about mental health problems and compulsive gaming:
Overwhelmed by the realisation of your lack of control over this baffling video game addiction ? Learn how to get support for you:
Quote from a member: "Declaring our home game free and having limited internet access was the best decision we made... We tried many things before with no lasting results. We also made sure to tell him over and over again that we do what we do not because we are trying to punish him or to show him who is the boss, but because we love him dearly and could not continue contributing his destructive path."
Recovery only starts when we stop enabling them. To find out what parents need to stop doing to help our video game addict kids (how to stop enabling them) see this thread linked below:
For when there are diffiulties trying to reach out to them. Tips on communicating with a gaming addict and about "interventions:"
Some of our member stories, parents who have dealt with this addiction themselves:
When they are failing in college due to video game addiction
Experiences and tips about wilderness therapy:
Experiences using professional therapists: this may help you to know what to consider when seeking therapy for your child
Dealing with the threat of suicide or self harm by the gamer:
These are just a few places for you to start to do your research. There are many years of experience on this forum. Keep coming back. The more you know and the more the information become part of you, the better prepared you will be to make a difference to your child's life. If you are a member you can search the forums using the box at the bottom of every page.
Please post your success and failures on the forums so we can continue to pass on our experiences to the new generation of parents encountering this for the first time. Thank you !