My adult son is addicted to anime and videogames

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My adult son is addicted to anime and videogames

th2022 on May 23, 2022 - 1:17am 

Two years ago, my son left college because his videogame and technology addiction, and battling with major depression. Then, after 1 year in his first job, he continued playing videogames and started spending a lot of money in Steamgames.com. He also got addicted to anime and bought transgender hormones from China that he found online without medical prescription after watching Youtube videos from Japanese influencers. When I found the pills in his room, he told me wanted to be a new person because he did not have any friends. Then, he had an emotional crisis and was hospitalized for major depression for third time. After being released from the hospital, he did not want to return to work or college, and now is inside his room all day. He is out of the reality and told me that he may come back to work if I allow him to take again the hormones because according to him is his only chance to be happy in life. Do you have any similar situation with your adult children related to anime addiction? 

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It sounds like a very

It sounds like a very difficult situation to deal with. If he is living in your home you have the right to make rules including restricting access to drugs, his own digital devices, etc. As an adult he is free to leave if he does not like your rules. Then he will have to support himself and will need to work. When they get too comfortable with food, a warm bed, their digital device, then there is no motivation to seek change.  Look at the first aid kit for parents in the forums. Find the thread about enabling. Videos are feeding his addiction and feeding him trash information. You do not have to allow that to be perpetuated in your home the same way you would not be letting him shoot heroin in his bedroom. This needs to be communicated in a way that is not punishing to him, but loving and supportive. Before you set any ultimatums, I would recommend you read the forums quite a bit and write yourself a plan of action. Think it through.

If your son has gender disphoria ideally he should seek support / counselling around it before he goes ahead with any physical interventions. In the UK people with gender disphoria have to live (dress, identify) with the gender they chose before getting any treatment. If he is having mental health problems he is not in a good state to make decisions on physically/permanently changing his sexual charcteristics

There may be groups or therapists who support trans people. It would be healthier for him to engage in the real world with such organisations, to discuss with real people rather than he influenced by remote videos. If you can listen to him and show him respect around what he has to say it will be more helpful than shutting him down. It must be very hard for you to hear him talk about these ideas. if it were me there would be all kinds of alarm bells ringing. Your role is to listen but you don't have to help him towards any course of action he thinks that he wants right now. 

There is a link to a thread abouty the connection between mental health and gaming in the parents first aid kit

There is a typed chat meeting on Thursdays for parents and also Zoom meeting on Sumday that parents can attend. https://www.olganon.org/olgarolg-anon-schedule-meetings

You may also find the reddit forums helpful about anime addiction or conductdisorders.com parents emmeritus forum https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/forums/parent-emeritus.18/ helpful for support for you about dealing with your son. There must also be support forum around gender disphoria for parents. Use google etc.

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Thank you!

Thank you!

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