So glad I found this site. I have read many posts from others which I can totally relate to. I am so sad because I see my 5 year marriage coming to an end very soon. Unfortunately most of our marriage has been plagued with conflict which was a result of my obsessive time spent on the computer building our own business. My intentions were good, but my behavior mirrored what many have described here. There were other issues, but this was One of the biggest.
Sadly it took my wife moving to a new residence to 'wake me up'. Unfortunately in her loneliness and despair from my neglect, she found evony and my how the tables have turned. When I woke up, I put the computer down and started being the husband and father I should have been long ago. But she has now descended into her own world of evony which consumes her every moment.
I used to brag about what a great mother she was and now our 4 year old screams she doesn't want to go to mommys house because she is on the computer too much. I know she does spend time with her, but the ratio of kid time vs. game time has to be off. I have been over and observed her playing with our child, but jumping up every few minutes to click.
I feel horrible and some what responsible because it was my neglect that was a contributing factor to this. Ifeel I have just about done all I can to save us, but she just isn't interested. What's worse is that I am enabling this because she works nights at our business while I work days. She takes her laptop so she can keep up with her game while filling web orders.
She knows I still love her and want to work things out and I think at this point I am just being taken advantage of. She has relationships with these people and I am almost certain she is having an affair with one guys she talks, texts, calls, skypes, and everything else quite frequently. I still come over to her place every night with dinner (she doesn't keep much food in her house) and we act like we're a family, but the truth is her heart and soul belongs to evony right now.
She doesn't even wear my ring anymore and we havnt shared any intamacy for even longer. I love her with all my heart and I feel so much guilt for what I put her through. Its almost like karma that I am getting rejected for a computer and people who live in different states and countrys.
But I don't deserve this. I have made a huge effort to turn things around for us. I put my wife and family first, but I am getting nothing back. I know I hurt her badly, but two wrongs do not make a right. My guilty conciouss for my wrongs keeps me holding on, but how much does someone have to pay? Especially when they are clearly putting in so much effort to make things right.
The worst part is our business nets 6 figures plus and we could have a safe, promising and secure future together. My wife will have a hard time making it on her own as she has little education and work experience. But I know someday soon I have to stop supporting her and enabling this to continue. It's just so hard because I love her so much and divorce scares the hell out of me. But I can plainly see her passion is with the people she interacts with on evony now. Not me. I don't think she even has a notion I will cut her off because I have done so much for her everyday and it is taken for granted. I think that is the only reason she hasn't asked for divorce. Because she knows it will throw a wrench into her ability to devote her life to evony.
So confused and lost, but I have to do something soon. Just can't go on like this much longer....