I am the girlfriend of a WoW player. We've been together in some capacity for the past 3-years. Recently our relationship has gotten more serious-- I've even moved in with him. I love my boyfriend very much, but he has been unemployed for almost a year now, and because we live together his financial unstability effects me greatly. We have a roommate, and between him and I we manage to cover the bills.
Obviously that's not entirely fair though... My boyfriend claims he is trying to get a job (I've even helped him search through online listings), but I go to work everyday and have no real concept of what he does. I want to trust him, but whenever I'm home all he does is play WoW and when I ask about jobs, it's the same story every time: He's put out applications, but he hasn't heard anything. I can appreciate that the job market sucks right now, but there's work out there if you put your mind to it and really put yourself out there.
It's not just his unemployment that's upsetting me. On top of that our intamcy has suffered, while he's still affectionate with me I feel certain that spending time with me comes second to spending time on WoW raids. When I've tried to address the issue with him he gets extremely angry with me, and makes me the "bad guy" for bringing it up.
I understand that it starts to seem like I'm "parenting" him when I tell him my concerns, so I've backed off. But nothing has changed... his parents live nearby and I've mentioned the issues to them, and they seem supportive, but I think they're also afraid to confront him. Also, since they aren't living with him they don't have to deal with the issue everyday.
A week ago, I said I was stepping back. I just couldn't be a constant nag. But nothing is changing and it's eating me up inside. I joined this community to try and get some advice... I'm at a complete loss... I don't want his addiction to WoW to cost us our relationship. What can I do?