Hi. i think i have become a gamer widow. i thought i would never find a site like this but thankfully to my surprise you exsit.(its sad that you are needed though) here is my story. i have been with my husband for almost 8 years(married for 3 of those) he tends to have an addictive personality, when we first got together he really enjoyed his video games which i understood because most guys in his age catagory do. then it progressed to the warhammer game figures that you paint yourself and play at the store. he spent hundreds of dollars on that one. next it was the magic the gathering cards where he would get together with like minded guys ( usually a good 5-10 years younger than he, which i thought was weird) and play these cards. in the most recent past he was involved in a role playing group for dungeons and dragons, the group split up and now he has moved onto this online game. now every time he gets involved in one of these things he allows it to overtake his life. that is what he lives for. this online game thing has only been going on for roughly 2 months or so, but it is so bad that i want to get help before it gets to the point where i have to say either the game or me. i have read some of the posts on this site and they brought me to tears, i could have been the one writing those. it just hurts so bad to the point where sometimes i feel like i cant breathe. how do i start to get him to realize that his real flesh and blood wife is more important than some elf he's dating? i don't even remember the last time he asked how my day was or if im having trouble with an outdoor job if i need help. household jobs around the house that he does do are done in between lines on his game. his day starts fairly early in the am because i start work early and first thing he does is log on and plays until he has to get ready for work. i just very recently found out that plays the game at work as well. when he comes home its "whats for dinner?" and sits down to log on and play until the wee hours of the am only to start the cycle again. im frustrated, im lonely, im hurt and i want to be number 1 in his life again. ive cried to him, tried to reason with him, tried to compramise with him and nothing works. he just gets very angry and tells me i want to control him and make sure he has nothing he enjoys. i want my husband back!!!please if any one can help i would appreciate it, i think at this point even prancing around in lingerie would go unnoticed!
My husband is totally addicted to COH, & what's more, he is having an emotional affair with a woman he plays with. I feel hurt, desolate & alone. Any advice would be most welcome
Hi. i think i have become a gamer widow. i thought i would never find a site like this but thankfully to my surprise you exsit.(its sad that you are needed though) here is my story. i have been with my husband for almost 8 years(married for 3 of those) he tends to have an addictive personality, when we first got together he really enjoyed his video games which i understood because most guys in his age catagory do. then it progressed to the warhammer game figures that you paint yourself and play at the store. he spent hundreds of dollars on that one. next it was the magic the gathering cards where he would get together with like minded guys ( usually a good 5-10 years younger than he, which i thought was weird) and play these cards. in the most recent past he was involved in a role playing group for dungeons and dragons, the group split up and now he has moved onto this online game. now every time he gets involved in one of these things he allows it to overtake his life. that is what he lives for. this online game thing has only been going on for roughly 2 months or so, but it is so bad that i want to get help before it gets to the point where i have to say either the game or me. i have read some of the posts on this site and they brought me to tears, i could have been the one writing those. it just hurts so bad to the point where sometimes i feel like i cant breathe. how do i start to get him to realize that his real flesh and blood wife is more important than some elf he's dating? i don't even remember the last time he asked how my day was or if im having trouble with an outdoor job if i need help. household jobs around the house that he does do are done in between lines on his game. his day starts fairly early in the am because i start work early and first thing he does is log on and plays until he has to get ready for work. i just very recently found out that plays the game at work as well. when he comes home its "whats for dinner?" and sits down to log on and play until the wee hours of the am only to start the cycle again. im frustrated, im lonely, im hurt and i want to be number 1 in his life again. ive cried to him, tried to reason with him, tried to compramise with him and nothing works. he just gets very angry and tells me i want to control him and make sure he has nothing he enjoys. i want my husband back!!!please if any one can help i would appreciate it, i think at this point even prancing around in lingerie would go unnoticed!
Hi Jozzie, there are others here, who can help you much more adequately. Xandtar comes to mind, as he was in a similar situation as your husband...
I want to say that I read your story and feel for you.
Marriage councelling might be an idea.
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My husband is totally addicted to COH, & what's more, he is having an emotional affair with a woman he plays with. I feel hurt, desolate & alone. Any advice would be most welcome
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