Wow, I didn't know that groups like this existed - or that there was a name for what my husband does... We have been married almost 7 yrs, and I am at the end of my rope with his nonsense. Where do I start? He has always been into video games, and I am not... In fact, I think that it is pretty ridiculous for a grown man to play as much as he does, but let me back up. It was always kind of excessive, but when xbox live came out a few yrs back, that's when he really went overboard. His games of choice are multi-player shooting games. He has been obsessed with call of duty series for years. He has an entire network of other "adult gamers" that he plays with constantly - I'm talking 6 hrs or more at a time! They even make appointments on their web message board to play matches/tournaments/whatever, and when I try to point out how silly that is for a group of grown men, he gets angry at me and justifies it. My husband's favorite way of deflecting my criticism of his gaming is to pretend that I am saying it is NEVER acceptable for adults to play video games... it's like he thinks he's the leader of some gamer movement for social acceptance or something! I've explained to him that I understand lots of people like xbox - I wouldn't have a problem with him playing - it's the EXCESSIVE amount of game playing that I have a problem! To make matters worse, his excessive gaming is negatively impacting MY life now as well... He works from 3p-midnight, and I work from 8a-4:30pm. When he gets home from work, he plays xbox live until 6am - which is when I need to get up for work! Then he sleeps till 2pm, leaving himself no time to do anything constructive like exercise (he needs it), grocery shop or help around the house. That stuff is all left to me. He usually drinks while playing with his stupid friends and ALWAYS ends up waking me at night with his carrying on, yelling at the TV, etc. I suffer from insomnia and wake very easily, despite the fact that I take ambien...When I yelled at him for waking me up this morning at 5am, he actually told me that "maybe you should fix the fact that you can't sleep through the night instead of telling me I can't do what I want to do" !!! I was so mad today at work that I wrote him a two page letter, basically letting him have it. What's more, he has the nerve to get on MY case about the fact that I'm not showering him with physical affection... Well, hello! I actually take care of myself physically, and I would appreciate him trying to do the same... It's not exactly a turn on to listen to your 30 yr old husband play video games for 6 hrs... Sorry, this is a bit of a rant, but I'm not sure what to do. I told him that I want to cut his xbox time down to 3 hrs a night - I don't think that's unreasonable, but who knows if he'll actually do it (my guess is not). Thanks for listening.
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