I need help! I don't know what to do. My husband of almost five years is addicted to on-line gaming. We live two separate lives. I live my life with our two kids, four and two years old, and he lives his life with his computer. He started playing WOW six months before we got married and at the time I had know idea that it was going to be a long term thing. I thought it was something new he was consumed with and over time he would give it up. I was wrong and five years later here we are. He gets up in the morning and gets on-line for a few minutes and then leaves for work. He works an eight hour shift five days a week and then comes home and is immediately on the computer. He plays from the time he gets home to the time he goes to bed. On the weekends he plays all day long; from 10:00 am when he wakes up, to about 1:00 am when he goes to sleep. He doesn't go anywhere or do anything with us. We always invite him to go with us to the park, or out to eat, anywhere, but he always declines saying he doesn't feel good or is tired, but I know that is just code for needs to play computer games. In the past when I have confronted him about this problem he just shrugs it off as no big deal saying at least he is not out at the bars all night, or out with other women. So my choices are alcoholic or gaming addict? I think I deserve a little more than that. Two days ago we had a big fight that started about him breaking something, which happens often because of his anger issues when things aren't going his way, I finally told him that I have been angry at him for a long time and that he is not a part of our lives like he should be because of his gaming. Of course he replied with, "Oh, so it is all my fault," and proceeded to tell me that I am critical of him and make him feel like he is an idiot. The issue was left unresolved as usual, and now I don't know what to do. I want to give him an ultimatum to make a choice between his family and his computer, but I don't know if that is the right thing to do. I just want my husband back. We used to have so much fun together and now we don't have anything. I am tired of being angry and alone.
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