I thought we had a break thru!

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jozzie
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I thought we had a break thru!

I was devasted i came into the room where my husband plays his game and he was emailing someone, just as i got close enough to read the computer screen he clicked off. i aske who he was emailing and he told me it was his characters "girlfriend", that she wanted to know his real name and if he liked music. I went nuts, after reading some of the posts here i could only picture the worst he was "seeing" someone else, someone with like interests, someone who didn't nag him to help around the house, my life came crashing down around me! I yelled "she doesn't need to know any of that" "why are you writing her back?" "did you tell her you are married?", he said i was being crazy, that it was a harmless email and no he didn't tell her he was married. he said it didn't matter because she was a crazy lady who is obsessed with cats! the next morning after a very long sleepless night i came out and asked him if he was done with our relationship, i didn't get much of a reply. so i got ready for work, and left thinking my marriage was probably over. when he got home that night he seemed upset, i asked what was the matter and he said i made him mad that morning for asking if we were over. how could i think that and then he said he got thinking and got very upset with himself for letting me think that. he couldn't beleive he had gotten so out of control that i thought our marriage was finished. we had a REAL long thorough converstation about everything and he said he wanted to make changes. i was so happy! the nest morning when we got up he said good morning and gave me a kiss and a hug (never is the 8 years we've been together has he done that). and the computer remained off. he willingly helped me with some chores outside with out a fuss and still the computer remained off! then after dinner it went on, and we are going on 2 weeks and the computer remains on. Crash and Burn! back to square one. it hurts so bad i feel like i've been played. here i'll pretend to give you what you want a little teaser to keep you around! i've had it! i'm at the point i swear i just want to smash that **** computer to pieces! Why cna't i get thru to him? i don't think i'm a bad person im outgoing my friends all think he's mental for treating me like this. i guess there is just something more desirable in his fantasy world (because he sure isn't interested in me anymore, and i think that hurts the most, guys are supposed to get aroused by anything, but i CAN'T get my husband excited anymore!) thank you for listening to my ramblings, even though i don't get any advice here, it really helps being able to throw my experiences out there to people who my be going thru the same thing.

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Re: I thought we had a break thru!

If he's an addict, and he sounds like one,

he can't stop. Not by himself.

Its not your fault. You aren't to blame. So don't punish yourself, okay? Do what you have to do to save yourself...

Good luck to you.

Leveling in Real Life

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Re: I thought we had a break thru!

Do the same thing you did ... just more severe. Walk out on him and live with a friend of yours for a while... maybe even tell him you are done with him. On some people it works and they come back to their senses. When he begs you to come back, write a contract of how much and when he can play and what the priorities are.

Just some thoughts from observing here on the forum

Wish you luck too

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Re: I thought we had a break thru!

Quote:the nest morning when we got up he said good morning and gave me a kiss and a hug (never is the 8 years we've been together has he done that).

Go find yourself a real man. And let him read this.

You deserve more.

anonymous (not verified)
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You're better off just leaving. Don't wait for him to call you and apologize, because he will never do that. He's thinking, great! No more nagging and now I get to play the game for as long as I want. That happends to me so many times. I'm usually the one that ask him to come back, i'm usually the one that apologizes. He even went as far as deleteing his character right in front of my face. Couple days later, he'll pick a fight and then start playing again. I found out that he really didn't delete his character.I went as far as hurting myself for his attention. Our relationship finally ended after 13 years. I'm going through a lot of pain right now, but it's nothing compare to the pain that he puts me through.

Good luck to you and take care of yourself.

Molly

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Re: I thought we had a break thru!

Sounds like my husband. I have tried everything and he just says I'm make more out of it than what it is. That we had problems before the games so its not the game. No its not just the game. But it isn't helping us either.

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Re: I thought we had a break thru!

I say you need to let him knew exactly how serious you are about leaving and definatly give him some proof of it.

I was an addicted gamer and to me, the idea of my wife leaving me crushed me. Its been no more games since then.

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