Last night my husband and I had a talk. He's been great about staying away from the game (As far as I know, anyway. He says he hasn't gamed and I believe him). But it's clear that he's still heartbroken over having given it up. Last night we started to discuss how he feels about it...his feelings of bitterness and resentment toward me because he feels I didn't give the game enough of a chance before I told him I thought he had a problem and wanted him to give it up.
My husband has a very addictive personality and a long history of "void-filling" behavior. Something's wrong (I suspect it's been wrong for a very long time), and he turns to gaming, gambling, and other activities to deal with it. We talked about that as well and that was about the time he started to try to wrap up the conversation. I followed him into the next room and told him that he needed to address these feelings rather than forcing them down or nothing was ever going to get better. Exasperated, he turned to me and said, "If what I'm feeling hurts you...why would I want it?"
There wasn't much he wanted to discuss after that.
I'm heartbroken. I know he feels like I'm the one with the problem and that if he had another chance, he could handle the game responsibly. But the fact that he more or less "smuggled" the game behind my back three different times--even after I threatened to leave him--tells me this is more than a case of poor time management.
What can I do??