I've been reading "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drew. It describes the relationship between addict and partner so well; obviously it is geared towards alcoholics but you can so easily subsitute "gamer"; the advice holds true.
I wanted to share it here because I came upon a passage that I thought described such a common scenario here..when the addict tries to convince you that it is YOU that has the problem and not him...
"Think, imagine, that he is where he belongs-in the hospital getting treatment for his very sick condition-his physical and mental illness. Then, you visit him. You've been peaceful for a few days, because he is away from the house. You walk into the room and he pretends he is the gracious host and you're the patient, about to be admitted to the back wards of a mental hospital. But he has the pyjamas on!"
I love this image. Next time he tries to tell me that I am the one with the problem I am going to picture him in hospital PJ's. Maybe I can pretend that the mouse he has attatched to his hand is a drip :-)
Has anyone else read anything particularly helpful for partners living with addicts?