I have a question about locating the computer in public vs private areas of the home.A I know somewhere on the OLGA site it says that public areas are best, but I was wondering if others had differing perspectives.
In the beginning stages of this addiction we had the computer in a downstairs room where our front door is located.A As my LP (life partner) began to spend more and more time at the computer I began to get upset every time I had to pass through the room to leave the house.A It was an especially bad location for me as I had to pass through the room several times a day to walk the dogs.A When she began to communicate with other players I would see their characters standing or sitting together gazing off into the distance.A Since she was spending no time talking to me I found this very disturbing.A I found I was not enjoying my dog walks and was being sharp with the dogs.A A :'(A After talking to my therapist about it, I asked if my LP could move the computer to her room.A I didnaEU(tm)t think the location would affect her gamingaEU"she was already staying up all night and playing for up to 12 hours at a time.A So, now the computer is in her bedroom.
Last night we were talking and she asked how her playing the game was different from the times when we would sit downstairs and watch several hours of television.A I said at least we were together watching t.v. and could talk about what was on.A She then asked if I wanted her to move the computer into the living room so that we could be together while she gamed.A I tried to explain that due to her involvement in the game she could be in the room with me and IaEU(tm)d just as soon be in Alaska, but she didnaEU(tm)t get it.A Then I got the aEUoeI canaEU(tm)t winaEU argumentaEU"she thinks it would solve the problem I have feeling isolated and alone if the computer were downstairs where I read and knit.A
I also find I have a very overwhelming negative reaction to even seeing the game on the computer.A I just feel enraged by the whole thing.A I really donaEU(tm)t want aEUoeitaEU to be in the room where I am trying to enjoy some quiet activity (she said sheaEU(tm)d wear the headphones).A So if she is involved with the game and wearing headphones I donaEU(tm)t see how sitting in the same room constitutes any form of togetherness.A I feel so wounded by this whole experience that I really donaEU(tm)t want ANYTHING to do with the game.A I donaEU(tm)t want to be near it in any way.
Can any one offer any other perspectives to this situation that I might be missing?A Do other spouses or parents have this overwhelming abhorrence to these games to the point that you feel your blood pressure rising just hearing or seeing them?A Am I totally crazy for feeling this way?