My husband is 36 and I'm 34. He's always loved computer games and has gotten obsessive in his playing at times. But when it was just a regular single player game, it wasn't as bad. He'd be obsessed for a while then he'd finish the game and it would be done until the next game. His first online game was Anarchy Online. He also now plays Everquest. The single player games all had a beginning, a middle, and an end. That's the curse of these online games - THEY NEVER END!
He doesn't realize how toxic these "fun" games have become. Or if he does, he won't admit it. Because he travels a lot for work he thinks he's fine - he can't play all the time so he doesn't have a problem. But when he's home he plays constantly.
I love him so much but he's making life very hard. If I suggest that he's playing too much, he lashes out at me and gets angry. He spends very little time with me anymore and I miss the days before online gaming when we used to do things together. We used to go take a drive - go to a big bookstore or out to dinner. Now he has to check with his gamer friends just to eat dinner at home with me. He lives a whole life on the computer that I know nothing about.
I don't know how to make him see how destuctive this is. When I talk to him at all I'm just nagging him. I really thought he'd get bored of this but he's been playing for years. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm glad I found this board but I'm thoroughly depressed that there's such a need for it.