I am new to this group and I come here because I am in dire need of assistance. First let me give an account of what has been going on with me up to date.
I am an avid gamer, not really online games but I LOVE video games and it is really ironic that I would find myself in my current position. I am 33 years old and my current girlfriend is now 31. I had my first pc at age 12 and have been playing video games ever sense. You could almost call me a first generation gamer.
I am going on my third year in my relationship with my current girlfriend and am about one and a half years into her Warcraft addiction. I was actually the one that bought the game for her and I wish that I never had. I used to play with her and for a long time I was very excited that I found a girlfriend that I could actually play video games with. Things started getting really bad about eight months ago. Although I am very much into video games I have NEVER let them consume my life. I have a very healthy social life and many friends who I spend time with on a regular basis. I paint and write and I play games in between all of this as a compliment to my life, not a substitute.
My girlfriend now spends every moment she has free playing wow. Even when she is a work all she does is pour through the forums and go through wow related web sites. She constantly chooses to play the game rather than be with me and I find this very distressing. We currently live in a new home together that we bought jointly and things are absolutely miserable. I have on many, many occasions breached the subject of how I feel and it all ways turns into a seriously bad fight because she all ways blows up when I mention it. She sees nothing wrong at all and feels that I am trying to some how impede her pursuit of happiness by asking to cut back on the game play. She all ways tries to reverse the argument to where I am the bad guy.
I hate to get this personal but our romantic life has come to a complete halt because of the game also. She would rather play the game than enter into any kind of romantic situations and I find this VERY distressing. She is constantly late to work because she plays too late into the night and on the week ends she plays non stop for sometimes up to 12 hours. I have seen her start playing around 6 oaEU(tm)clock and not come to bed until about 7 in the morning. She goes completely nuts if I bring it up and it is very hard to approach her regarding this. She KNOWS how I feel about this game and does not seem to care at all about how I am feeling.
To give you a perfect example of how things are yesterday she approached me at work (we work together) and asked me if I wanted to hang out tonight and watch movies when we get home. I was excited because this is the first time in months she showed any interest in hanging out with me without any kind of Warcraft interaction, well so I thought. So we get home and after feeding the dog and setteling in she stood up and said aEUoeok, going to go play nowaEU. I was shocked and told her that I thought we were going to watch movies together and she again blew up in a rage saying that she did not mean that we were going to watch all night. So she left the room and did not come back until 1:30 in the morning (we go to bed at 2:00) and acted like she still wanted to watch something. She tells me she just wants to relax by playing after work but I donaEU(tm)t think that she realize that this means that hanging out with me quietly together is not relaxing to her and this hurts me a lot.
I love her very much and I am at my wits end and I have no idea what to do. I have contemplated breaking up with her many times but I hate the idea of doing that over a game of all things.
Please, any advice is welcomed.
Edited by: wowburned at: 4/11/06 16:29